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Are you a crier?

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RiveterRosie Mon 28-Sep-20 11:33:59

If you are, what things (besides from obviously sad things) make you cry?

I've just listened to a soprano singing "They call me Mimi" from La Boheme and it was so beautiful I found myself in tears. I often cry if I hear a piece of very beautiful music.

If you are a crier do you feel embarrassed by it?

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ComicePear Mon 28-Sep-20 11:36:56

I cry easily over books and films. I'm not embarrassed by it because I don't usually read / watch a film in public, and DH is used to it.

In real life I'm hard as nails and almost never cry. It's just fictional characters that set me off confused

AlexaShutUp Mon 28-Sep-20 11:39:56

Yes, I cry at everything. It's very embarrassing but I have not yet found a way to stop. I wish I could.

DD used to laugh at me, but has been exactly the same since she hit puberty. Karma of a kind, I suppose.

DH is utterly bewildered by it, especially when we both sit and sob about something on the TV.

MonkeyPuddle Mon 28-Sep-20 11:42:26

I cried at the phantom of the opera on telly last night.
I cried when I banged my head on the fused box yesterday.
I cried at CBeebies story time, story about a cloud who didn’t have any friends and was sad.
I am very pregnant mind you.

canigohomenow Mon 28-Sep-20 11:44:03

Never used to be! I was hard as nails growing up.

I cry at adverts on TV now, like a proper sap!

TheGriffle Mon 28-Sep-20 11:44:22

I tend to cry when I’m angry and frustrated. And that has happened a few times at work and it’s so embarrassing. Wish I could stop but it’s like I know I can’t scream or shout in that situation so it comes out as frustrated tears instead.

AlexaShutUp Mon 28-Sep-20 11:45:59

I'm an angry crier, too TheGriffle, as is dd. It's so frustrating when people assume that you're upset!

blinkboo Mon 28-Sep-20 11:53:04

I'm an angry and sad crier. I'm very embarrassed by it. I cry when I'm trying to comfort people who are sad / bereaved or give condolences. It's mortifying.
I cry at any live performance too eg theatre or concert - that's more just being a bit awed. I'd love to be able to control it.

Meruem Mon 28-Sep-20 11:59:31

Books and films can make me cry. Severe frustration/anger can also provoke tears in me or extreme happiness. But strangely, sad real life stuff never makes me cry. So I can come across to others as quite cold and uncaring. I don’t know why this is the case. I don’t like music so that would never make me cry. I don’t feel a thing when I listen to music.

SlightlyCheesedOff Mon 28-Sep-20 12:03:17

I cry so easily. I hate it. It's embarrassing (especially at work), but how to stop it?

TeddyIsaHe Mon 28-Sep-20 12:06:40

I cry copiously at videos of pets being reunited, or books and films, but I hardly ever cry irl. It’s a very rare occasion where something truly horrendous has happened, or I’m overwhelmed from holding everything together and break down a bit.

I have to watch emotional films if I need to have a good cry.

Scweltish Mon 28-Sep-20 12:06:45

Nope. Cried once ten years ago when I was told my dd was ectopic and they were going to remove my tube with my dd in it.
Think that’s the only time I’ve cried as an adult

Elieza Mon 28-Sep-20 12:14:54

I cry every week. Not daily but more than once a week. I can cry at adverts let alone tv programmes. I’ve cried over some MN posts as they are so sad and I really feel for the people.

I think it’s better to get it out than keep it all inside. But it would be nice to not have my emotions so easily brought to the surface! Controllable would be good. With some kind of switch!

I go for acupuncture regularly. When the therapist heard I was attending a funeral the following day my acupuncturist strengthened me up so I wasn’t so teary as I would have been sobbing and that’s not appropriate ( when the person isn’t that close an acquaintance ) and may have upset the family. So the acupuncture helped and I was able to hold it together and cry a little but not sob. But the treatment doesn’t last forever, it wears off eventually.

FoxtrotOscarPoppet Mon 28-Sep-20 12:17:19

I’m a reluctant crier. I bottle things up and bottle things up and then I go and have a good overdue sob somewhere on my own (hate crying in front of others).

ageingdisgracefully Mon 28-Sep-20 12:19:36

Nope. I wasn't allowed to cry as a child and it's stuck. People probably think I'm hard. I'm.not.

ClinkyMonkey Mon 28-Sep-20 12:32:31

Lots of thing cause me to cry. Hurt aimed at me. Hurt aimed at other people. Tragedies on the news. Certain songs and pieces of music. Sometimes even a certain feel in the air - warmth, a chill, a breeze - will make me cry. Not sobbing or rivers of tears, but definitely real tears and always a red nose! But when my sister died, I couldn't cry. Same when my dad died.

spikyplants Mon 28-Sep-20 14:33:23

A lot more so these days due to perimenopause and numerous unfavourable life events having taken their toll. Hearing songs lost loved ones liked, etc. will always set me off - understandable. But now I cry at things like friendly animals approaching me for a bit of fuss - at the back of my head I think what would have happened if they approached someone nasty who was going to hurt them? I'm ridiculously sensitive at the moment. confused

ifiwasascent Mon 28-Sep-20 16:17:29

I cry loads. When I'm happy, when I'm sad, for absolutely no reason. Just a crier!

Howmanysleepsnow Mon 28-Sep-20 18:38:01

I cry at TV programmes, films, books And occasionally music.
If anything sad comes on TV the dc all stop watching to watch me and wait: they think it’s hilarious!

Originalyellowbelly Mon 28-Sep-20 18:59:03

I only have to see someone's lip quiver and I'm crying with them, I cry at sad films, I cry when I think of my pets dying (which may happen quite soon), I cry at cruelty to children and animals, I cry when I see my family that I haven't seen for a while, I cry when they leave. But if you knew me you would think nothing would make me cry.

OhWifey Mon 28-Sep-20 19:02:45

Yes I cry all the time. The very most frustrating is crying when angry. I'd absolutely love to give someone a bollocking without crying my eyes out.

Pinkfluffyunicornsdancing Mon 28-Sep-20 19:10:12

Nope my heart and eyes mustn't work.

thelegohooverer Mon 28-Sep-20 19:15:56

Another crier and definitely not a pretty one. It’s an awful affliction.
Sometimes I can hear my voice quiver when I’m reading a bedtime story and the dc roll their eyes

LollipopViolet Mon 28-Sep-20 19:18:43

Yep. Happy - cry. Sad - cry. Angry - cry. Scared or anxious - cry.
A big one for me is confrontation or people shouting at me. If it happens at work (call centre) I have to really fight the tears, I'll be physically shaking too. I've cried numerous times at work blush

Reedwarbler Mon 28-Sep-20 19:21:44

@ageingdisgracefully I am exactly the same. I think my parents suffered from terribly stiff upper lips and a very British dislike of emotional displays. If you cried or made a fuss as a child in our house you were told not to, and to, 'get a grip, don't draw attention to yourself, grow up or stop being wet or silly'. All that does is create an emotionally repressed adult (and child) and I find it almost impossible to cry in front of others. It also made me extremely stoic about physical pain. I'm not tough at all, just appear to be.

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