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What's the most difficult thing you've gone through?

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Iwonder777 Sat 26-Sep-20 19:52:08

For me, a full on MH breakdown.

Felt like falling into a pit and nearly losing my life. Almost seems like a different persons experience now.

What have you survived? And can't quite believe you made it through.

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vampirethriller Sat 26-Sep-20 20:16:20

Forced prostitution, heroin addiction and homelessness, I sometimes feel like I've been reincarnated without dying because life is unrecognisable to what it was.

Iwonder777 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:19:14

What a good way of phrasing it!

But wow. That's some story. How are you now?

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vampirethriller Sat 26-Sep-20 20:24:43

I'm great! Clean 6/nearly 7 years, live in a nice little flat with my daughter and the dog, got a lovely support worker. Heaven compared to how I was!

Morgana7 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:26:10

Serious debt with pay day loans, a mental breakdown where my anxiety was so bad I could barely leave the house for about 2 years.
Oh and being bullied badly at school for a couple of years.

Trailing1 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:26:18

For me it was a mental health breakdown as well. I had severe postnatal depression. It's not something you talk about much (if at all) in my culture and community. I pretty much became a pariah and was shunned. People would call me "mad" to my face. Then the endless comments from family about how ungrateful I was and that I should appreciate that I was able to have kids at all.
Honestly I have never felt so low and unsupported n my life and it did drive me to the verge of suicide. flowers to everyone who is struggling.

anorangeaday Sat 26-Sep-20 20:26:47

Depression, last year. My relationship broke down, I was left as a single mum to a 3 month old and a 2 year old. It triggered PTSD from my childhood. I was extremely anxious and couldn’t leave the house without having panic attacks that turned into fits. I truly didn’t think I’d be here now.

foxyknoxy30 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:28:02

Losing my lovely parents and especially my wee mum

Plump82 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:29:01

Watching my dad suffer and be in excruciating pain with pancreatic cancer and seeing my mum care for him. Ive never seen someone in so much pain and being with him the last week in the hospice was awful. I've still not properly dealt with it.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult Sat 26-Sep-20 20:30:41

Abusive childhood, abusive marriage, two of my children dying, and now cancer.

Sounds awful, and was/is awful but I recognise that I'm still a lot luckier than a lot of people are. I try and look at the positive things.

Littered5 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:30:42

Trailing1

For me it was a mental health breakdown as well. I had severe postnatal depression. It's not something you talk about much (if at all) in my culture and community. I pretty much became a pariah and was shunned. People would call me "mad" to my face. Then the endless comments from family about how ungrateful I was and that I should appreciate that I was able to have kids at all.
Honestly I have never felt so low and unsupported n my life and it did drive me to the verge of suicide. flowers to everyone who is struggling.

I hope your in a much better place now. It really grates on me when people start shouting “children are blessings” we know but it doesn’t seem it when your down.

LongPauseNoAnswer Sat 26-Sep-20 20:31:15

Being a single parent and working 3 jobs including cleaning holiday homes for rich people. It was a hellish time and sometimes I had literally zero money the day before benefits were due. I was determined to turn my finances around and now I’m the owner of a multi 7 figure business. Overnight success 15 years in the making grin

AnneLovesGilbert Sat 26-Sep-20 20:32:11

Recurrent miscarriages. Was like walking around with a gaping hole where my heart should have been.

The support I had on here from amazingly empathetic and funny women on here made a huge difference.

Toilenstripes Sat 26-Sep-20 20:32:34

A MH breakdown following the death of my mum. I feel like my DNA has changed, every part of me is different.

IHateCoronavirus Sat 26-Sep-20 20:32:58

The loss of my baby DD bear

lljkk Sat 26-Sep-20 20:34:50

This is very helpful, genuine thanks. I am summoning up courage to do something difficult & just realised that if it's the hardest thing I ever do, my life will have been very privileged.

BlackLetterDay Sat 26-Sep-20 20:36:59

Previously I thought it was losing my mum. Now it's a full on breakdown after a relationship with a total narcissistic arsehole, with 3 kids and zero support from anyone.

I'm still here somehow and coming out the other side hopefully. It was very touch and go for awhile, I have no idea how I still have my kids. They are all amazing people and il have to live with how I damaged them forever.

Macramacious Sat 26-Sep-20 20:37:20

My Dad had steroidal dementia. It lasted about 6 months and it was the most terrifying, stressful time of my life. I have so much empathy for anyone that has a loved one with dementia because its fucking horrible.

Zebrasandfairytales Sat 26-Sep-20 20:38:47

A toxic relationship. Debt. I was raped. I was bullied and discriminated against at work so pursued a grievance and had it upheld after a year of gruelling work and trying to keep my head up.

Ive been to rock bottom. I’ve put up some decent fights. Lost some, won some.

I appreciate every day, normal contentment. The little things. The moments of calm and happiness.

Trailing1 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:39:10

Littered5, yes thank you, I mostly recovered from that dark time, but I still have days where I get down, but its nothing in comparison to the past. Its become a part of me that will always be there in some shape.

Gingaaarghpussy Sat 26-Sep-20 20:39:19

losing my dad 3months after dc was born.
Pneumonia closely followed by a dvt.
Coming close to a mh breakdown due to my xh being a total arsehole.
Not all at the same time.

Chicchicchicchiclana Sat 26-Sep-20 20:40:15

Birth of my first child.

Greypurse Sat 26-Sep-20 20:40:59

My mum dying of cancer, plus 4 miscarriages. Occasionally I still think what the actual fuck about my life as barely anyone knows the trauma I’ve been through, from the outside they think I live a very charmed existence.

bloodywhitecat Sat 26-Sep-20 20:42:39

Right now, just over three months ago my partner turned yellow. After many, many cock ups by our local hospital we found out yesterday that he has pancreatic cancer. I suspect the worst is yet to come.

IKEA888 Sat 26-Sep-20 20:43:26

my 14 month old being in hospital for 6 months and during that time almost dying and being resuscitated.
I was alone with him for most of the 6 months 100 miles away from my husband and other kids.

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