Reasons why my DS (13) should not stay at his girlfriends

[TheOrville]

Just that really.
Allegedly girlfriends mum is okay with it.

I am not. Please give me additional reasons, so far I have

1. not appropriate
   
2. setting a precedent
   
3. not appropriate

[OverTheRainbow88]

Unnecessary
Too young

[Sirzy]

He’s 13. That should be enough.

I would ask for the parents phone number. I wonder if they really have agreed

[Aquicknamechange2019]

He's 13. You've said no. End of.

[Codexdivinchi]

Because you’ve said no.

Because young boys need to be protected just as much as young girls.

I’d also ring the parents too.

[maddiemookins16mum]

Christ, when did 13 year olds start having boyfriends/girlfriends.

[MinesAPintOfTea]

Why does he say he wants to?

Because if things go wrong it will be the middle of the night

Because unless he says he wants to stay because he wants sex, he needs protecting from being put in circumstances where it is expected. If he does say that, then he needs protecting from a decision he is too young to make.

You are the parent

[WoodenFox]

@Aquicknamechange2019

He's 13. You've said no. End of.

This, 100%

[Toontown]

@maddiemookins16mum pretty certain Romeo and Juliet were 13 so I would hazard a guess and say for a long time!
A simple no is all that's needed.
But currently we are not allowed in other people's household so its illegal. There are also "one thing leads to another", possible pregnancy and statutory rape issues.

[Disorganisedfish]

He’s 13! You said no!

Realise I’m repeating others here, but seriously - pull out the “because I said so” card here because you are the parent and it’s a ludicrous idea!

[mummyof2lou]

Because he's 13!! No other reason required at all. He could get in all sorts of trouble if this all goes wrong. Shocking the girlfriends Mum thinks it's ok.

[AlwaysLatte]

I would decide at what age that would be acceptable (not 13!) and then there's your reason right there. No more discussion.

[Clovertoast]

13 !! My 17 year old dd has never even stayed anywhere!!!!
It's just a no. Followed by YOU ARE 13!!!
why does he even want to stay?

[Effitall]

Because he is a child and needs protecting, even if he may not see it right now.

[Somethingkindaoooo]

Agree- just because you said no.

Its potentially too grown up of a situation

[MrsMcMuffins]

It’s a no from me. Not appropriate. They can spend time in the living room alone but supervised. Mine started bringing friends of opposite sex into their bedrooms past 16 and with door open to 17 when I left them to it.

[caughtalightsneeze]

Because I say so would be my answer here.

Before I had children I swore I would never say that but that's because I was clueless. Sometimes it's fine to say that I'm the parent and I make the decisions and I don't have to justify them.

[MikeUniformMike]

Unnecessary, might lead to behaviour that 13 yr olds shouldn't be getting up to (and possible consequences), and because you don't think it is appropriate.

It might be quite innocent, but it might create an opportunity for inappropriate behaviour.

[CatteStreet]

He's 13. That should be the end of the discussion really.

[ConcernedAboutWarrington]

No.

Because you're 13. Because you could find yourself in a situation that you regret. Because 13 year old boys and girls have raging hormones and as your parent I have to protect you of the potential consequences of that.

Because you have plenty of opportunity to spend time with GF during the day / evenings without staying over.

Because you'll get the opportunity for all of this when you're older and better equipped to make these decisions for yourself.

Because I say so, and it's easier for you to say you're not allowed, than for you to say you don't want to, because that might be the case.

I think you should explain a little because your 13 year old can understand this.

[alreadytaken]

If 13 year olds want to get up to inappropriate behaviour they are just as likely to do so in daytime.

Have you spoken to the other mother? I'd speak to her and see if she is alright with it and if so why.

Then have a talk with your son about the law and why it exists, respect for women and contraception.

[FippertyGibbett]

Absolutely not !

[UntamedWisteria]

assuming they will be in separate bedrooms I really don't see the problem here.

You need to speak to the other parents to ensure everyone's on the same page.

[Browneyesbigbum]

He is 13 and a child - your decision.

Not the feckless parent of another 13 year old - does she realise that 13 years can and do have sex and can and do get pregnant....

[ineedaholidaynow]

In any circumstances too young, and with the added issue of COVID. Assume they wouldn’t be social distancing