NC as obviously potentially outing.
My sister and I had a fairly rough upbringing. Our mother was /is an alcoholic, had sporadic relationship with our father.
I am married with a daughter, my sister had a baby boy 11 months ago. Her and baby's father split while she was pregnant though they have had a civil relationship since then and he is a good dad to their little one.
2 weeks ago I had a phone call from sisters exboyfriend. Social services had removed their son from her care and now he has DN in his care. DS had met someone online about 2 months ago. He lives a fair distance away, didn't think too much of it but it turns out that he has previously been in prison for sexually assaulting a young girl and has twice been convicted of possession of child abuse images. For context we are in Scotland and the boyfriend is from England.
Social services told my sister she either ends the relationship or they will take further action. She refused to end the relationship so they got an emergency order to have DN placed with his father. I knew nothing of any of this until DS ex partner contacted me.
Baby and father seem to be fine, I have visited and took some shopping etc. I cannot understand what the hell is wrong with DS. I have obviously went through her like a ton of bricks but she says they convictions were wrong etc etc and that he's changed. She has never shown signs of being this stupid in the past. I am worried sick. She is allowed supervised contact with DN twice a week. Twice she has missed it now, once because she had to take her cat to the vet and once because she was getting a spray tan done.
I am devastated. I am not worried about baby being with his father, I am being supportive and his own parents are supporting him as well and baby seems happy as Larry. But I don't know whether to be more worried or angry when it comes to DS.
I have no idea what will happen moving forward. How can I make her see sense. My head is absolutely fried with all of this.
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Sister in relationship with paedophile, SS removed son from her care, please help.
Qwertybertie87 · 15/09/2020 19:29
Now she has had her child taken out of her custody this man will probably lose interest.
These people are very good at love bombing and grooming single, vulnerable mothers.
She may (and hopefully will) step up when this man ends things.
It must be so difficult for you, thank goodness your DNs dad is facilitating a relationship between you 
Just keep doing what you are OP, supporting the Dad and your DN.
Be very gentle with yourself, it’s ok to be grieving for the way she’s handling all this, you’ll be rightfully furious and devastated.
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