Posting here for traffic as I need more than just DPs opinion and I'm going to think about nothing else!
DP and I got engaged at the start of the year and before we had gotten round to setting dates and booking something Covid hit.
My dream is to have a small, fuss free wedding with minimal guests and go for a nice meal afterwards. Due to the thought of upsetting various family members we decided against this and started to plan for a medium sized wedding with approx 70 people.
As time has gone on and the stress of actually trying to organise a wedding and pay for it has really hit me, DP and I have seriously considered just doing a small wedding with 15 guests maximum. Due to the change in Covid 19 rules a meal together will most likely be off the cards as we were thinking of December when we both have annual leave booked. But we could still get married, have a meal with our children and book a nice hotel for the night.
The problem is the overwhelming guilt I feel at certain members of the family not being able to come. DP's partner are all very close and we would only be inviting his mum, gran and 3 siblings. Extended family and our nieces and nephews would miss out. I wouldn't be able to have my best friend and her children there and worry about offending step-parents as they would also not be able to come.
When broaching the subject my mum has made me feel guilty about the fact that stepdad would not be able to come and has said she thinks I should wait and throw a bigger celebration. That having a party to celebrate when everything is back to normal would be a bit silly.
So now I'm torn--do we do what we really want and get married with minimal guests a lot sooner than anticipated, save more money but risk upsetting people? Or wait until life returns back to normal and then plan a wedding for maybe Summer 2022 where we can invite all the people we want there? What puts me off is not knowing if things even will be back to normal, and having to wait so long when all I want to do is marry my best friend.
If it's relevant we both just want a simple registry office wedding, no fancy white dress and 3 course meals, just a buffet/disco type party and we are both on low incomes and would be using most of what we have saved on a wedding.
Disclaimer: i'm a few glasses into Saturday night wine time so sorry if this post is a jumbled mess!
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BeccaBloomwood · 12/09/2020 19:45
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