I have a 9yo DS who I think could have HFA. To give some examples:
- highly anxious and struggles with change
- finds it hard to focus, especially with the slightest noise/distraction
- can be obsessive about interests and will talk and talk about them irrespective of whether they are relevant to a conversation
- is extremely sensitive, and will cry at any perceived slight
- when upset/overwhelmed, will hide under a bed or behind a chair (in an episode recently took to hitting himself, until I saw and stopped it)
- extremely rules driven and can’t accept when others don’t follow them religiously
- some sensory issues; hates the feeling of jumpers and tucked in shirts
- Incredibly self critical, and hates making mistakes
- hates things being thrown away (will retrieve broken pens from the bin, for example) and clearing out old toys is impossible unless done without him knowing.
On the other hand, DS is very affectionate (loves hugs), happy to speak to adults, doing fine academically and who teachers say is popular with other children (although DS would say he has very few friends). Also good at sport and music so most would consider well rounded (but they don’t see the issues we deal with at home when it all gets too much).
Overall, DS is a lovely child, but we are increasingly worried that he is struggling with life. Does this sound like HFA or just a highly anxious, highly strung child? Is there any benefit to a diagnosis if DS is on the spectrum (apologies if that is old terminology)? Anything else we should be doing to help him? We are constantly trying positive reinforcement but it doesn’t seem to work.
Thanks in advance for any advice! (Sorry for the long post)