I am 90% sure my friend's DD is not her DH's

[SpaceOP]

I have a good friend who I've known for a long time. I love her and consider her a very close friend, but she's also someone who seems all super open on the surface but there's all kinds of stuff going on below.

I have long had my suspicions about her DD. Since she was really very small, I kept being struck by how much she looks like a friend of ours. My friend and her DH are very close to this man, and have been for as long as I've known them. Recently, the man posted a picture of HIS DD who is about 5 years older than my friend's DD and I almost dropped my phone in shock. I showed DH and when looking at the picture, after a few seconds he said, "is that friend's DD from a few years ago?"

I think it's entirely possible she had an affair. I think it's possible her DH knows and has forgiven her EXCEPT that he is still very close with this man which seems odd. So my new theory is that for whatever reason, they asked him to donate sperm.

Obviously, if she wanted me to know, she'd have told me and I'm certainly not going to ask her. Ditto, I would never ever say anything to any mutual friends or even just anyone in real life in case they ever met her/her DH. So I came on here!

Any other ideas on how this might have happened? Affair (known or not) and sperm donation are my main ones. I guess it's possible they used to do threesomes back in the day too (the other man was single until a few years ago but is very attractive).

[SpaceOP]

ARGGGH. 5 years YOUNGER. The man's DD is 5 years YOUNGER than my friend's DD.

[emmyhelly]

not your business

[Allmyarseandpeggymartin]

Threesome? Turkey Baster?

Not your business op

[MasterBruceBalloon]

What business is it of yours exactly?

[Backtoschoolnotsoonenough]

Super sleuthing is never advised on mn. Keeping one's neb out is for the best!!
Def not what you want to be doing though I agree!! .. Step away from the DIY dna kits op!!

[Carrottop73]

Stick to your own business!

[HollowTalk]

I wouldn't want to know the truth about this, OP. It would be awful if she had an affair and had the other guy's baby - if you knew that's what had happened, how would you ever be able to relax with her husband?

[IhateBoswell]

You nosey bleeder! I bet your curtains are constantly twitching.

[toomanyspiderplants]

Sorry but what is the point of this?

[Justmuddlingalong]

I'm struggling to see what business of yours it is.

[radioband]

It does make me laugh Mumsnet, you always know what the responses are going to be before seeing them. The OP is not saying she is going to get involved in their business, merely making her own conclusions and asking for others thoughts on it. I challenge anyone in the OP position not to be curious, she can’t discuss with said friend so is discussing it with strangers on the internet. I applaud this response rather than attempting to open a can of worms. 👏🏻

[DeeTractor]

You've been reading too much Take a Break.

[Jaxhog]

Say. Nothing.

It's absolutely none of your business.

[DOINGOURBIT]

But why is she so interested? Thoughts may enter into our head but I'm pretty sure most of us don't go acting the Miss Marple to act on them.

[Disfordarkchocolate]

I'm 100% sure it's none of your business.

[islockdownoveryet]

Over active imagination or it's true either way it's1) none of your business and 2) you could be opening a whole can of beans and a lot of heartache which will end the friendship.

[Farlow]

You’re not really her friend are you.

[OLGADEEPOLGA]

Absolutely none of your business.

[Justmuddlingalong]

The OP is looking for suggestions as to how it happened, when not really knowing if it happened. Even if us randoms gave suggestions, what would she do with those suggestions? She'll never know because if it was any of her business her very close friend would have told her.

[Potionqueen]

MYOB. Nothing to do with you.

[Crinkle77]

None of your business. Stop gossiping!

[Backtoschoolnotsoonenough]

Once saw some sisters local to me on Jeremy Kyle years ago. They both openly had dc to the same man..

*catagorically deny ever watching Jezza...

[IhateBoswell]

I think OP has pretty much listed all suggestions..

[ThatDamnScientist]

You need to keep well out of it. Really is none of your business.

[EsmeeMerlin]

Some friend you are, you have made a online thread gossiping about her.