My DM went into hospital 5 weeks ago after a series of falls. While in hospital she suffered a massive stroke. Now the hospital are saying she can be discharged and asking if anyone has power of attorney. They have also said they're not sure if she needs continuing healthcare.
Mum is paralysed down one side. She can't speak. She has a catheter. She has, as of last week, been able to eat very small amounts of food, but has to be fed, she can't feed herself. Before lockdown she was being assessed for Parkinson's, and has a list of other medical conditions.
We don't know if she has appointed a power of attorney. It certainly isn't any of us, but we can't even find her will at the moment, let alone any other official documents pertaining to this kind of thing (she has hoarded paperwork going back 40 years!!)
I don't even know where to start. Are we supposed to find a nursing home? How do we get a proper assessment for continuing healthcare? Will it be difficult to get her into a nursing home right now, with the covid situation? How do we go about selling the house, if that's needed?
We've barely spoken to any doctors, as we have to wait for them to call us. We can visit 3 times a week, by phoning the day before. The phone line is only open for 1 hour, and if you can't get through, you're stuffed.
Can anyone point me to any organisations we can speak to? After a long and fruitless wait on the phone to Age Uk, I have emailed them so will wait for a response from them. I know about Stroke.org.uk, but is there anyone else?
I feel totally lost, and the situation isn't helped by one of my brothers being obstructive about things -he refuses to face the possibility that Mum is unlikely to fully recover.
Any advice would be gratefully received.
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Elderly mum, massive stroke, hospital pushing for discharge- HELP!
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Shodan · 28/08/2020 10:42
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