Apologies in advance for the long post and thank you for reading.
I am at my wits end. DS is 10.5 months and has never been a good sleeper. I have just dealt with it as it's all I know and kept thinking, he'll grow out of it etc etc. However, I can't see this changing anytime soon.
Background- he is breastfed and we co-sleep. Not ideal I know, but it was the only way I could survive at the start and now here we are nearly a year later. I am worried that he will never sleep in his own cot, in his own room, without me.
He feeds to sleep - another bad habit, I know, and is a ridiculously light sleeper. If I merely move across the bed or dare to go to the toilet, he is wide awake, screaming. This has become all the more problematic since he has become so active and mobile. He wakes frequently and crawls around the bed, stands up on headboard etc. I therefore can't leave him as he would crawl off the bed. So I don't have any time to myself/ with partner in the evenings. I used to really love co-sleeping but it is becoming exhausting now.
Also, he has never been good at daytime naps - again, always fed to sleep or I literally have to walk for hours to get him to sleep in pram and he wakes as soon as I stop moving/ as soon as we arrive back home.
He is also not a great eater, and won't entertain formula so he won't take a bottle of formula to "fill him up at night" as people often tell me I should do. He is unbelievably stubborn and strong willed. Also, feel that he just wants ME and the boob for comfort as much as nourishment. Which is all very normal I imagine.
I just feel that I have enabled and nurtured very bad habits with him, and don't know how we will get out of this predicament.
In desperation, we brought his cot in and assembled it beside our bed...I have then been getting him to sleep on a blanket/my nightdress and trying to transfer him over once asleep. This most often results in him waking instantaneously, screaming and then we are back to square one. I know this is not a great idea as he is waking up in a different place to where he fell asleep so naturally will be upset.
I can't bear the idea of sleep training/leaving him to cry and in any case I don't think it would work for him.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you very much x
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HELP!!!! 10 month old sleep
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Horsebox36 · 23/08/2020 20:19
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