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Does anyone still co-sleep with their school aged child?

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itustiime Sun 23-Aug-20 11:55:10

DS is only 3 but I'm aware school is only a year away. We've always shared a bed (we both sleep better that way but it's also culturally normal for me)

Do I need to have him sleeping on his own by school age?

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beachbodhi Sun 23-Aug-20 11:59:29

It's entirely up to you! Mine still sleep in with me (5&7) and we all have an amazing nights sleep-my youngest is autistic so co-sleeping is what works for us now, maybe in the future that'll change but I'm easy about it

Poonmig Sun 23-Aug-20 12:06:57

My 9 year old still sleeps with me. His choice, sometimes he sleeps in his bed, sometime mine. No biggy really.

Pinkflipflop85 Sun 23-Aug-20 12:11:09

My 6 year old starts the night in his own bed but we regularly wake in the morning with him snuggled in between us.

AlexaShutUp Sun 23-Aug-20 12:16:22

I suspect that a lot of people will tell you that it's important for him to learn to sleep independently, but I would be guided by your child's needs and not the opinions of random strangers.

My dd co-slept for quite a long time after starting school. We let her make the decision about when to move to her own bed. I think she was about 7/8, though it was a gradual process with quite a lot of coming and going. I have no regrets. She was very clingy and had no problems with sleepovers etc, and now at 15, she is a happy, confident and independent kid. We have a great relationship, and I'm glad that we never made bedtime into a battle.

zigaziga Sun 23-Aug-20 12:19:47

Yes. Has his own bed - usually wants DH in it most or part of the night but occasionally wants to be in the big bed with me and younger sibling.
It’s all fine. Everyone gets enough sleep and no one has ever been made to sleep some of they don’t want to.

RemyHadley Sun 23-Aug-20 12:22:47

Yep, my almost 6 year old still shares with me and his little brother, we just have a massive bed. No issues. We all get the most sleep that way.

ittooshallpass Sun 23-Aug-20 12:33:09

DD came into my bed pretty much every night until she was 9. It was fine. She needed the comfort, I had a nice big bed smile

Rae36 Sun 23-Aug-20 12:42:09

Mine did until he was 6. We only stopped because he was just too big and wriggly and no-one was getting a proper night's sleep. Stopping was actually mush easier than I though Do what suits you op.

Nighttimefreedom Sun 23-Aug-20 12:44:03

My 7 year old regularly chooses to sleep in with me. She has always had her own room and bed etc, so I would get all sorted if you haven't. But otherwise don't worry about it if you don't mind sharing.

toiletpaper Sun 23-Aug-20 12:46:49

I'm a single mother and have two kids, mine alternate nights for sleeping with me and I enjoy the company, keep doing it for as long as you want to I say

Whatthebloodyell Sun 23-Aug-20 12:49:06

My 4 year old ends up
In my bed at least 60% of the time. I can’t see that stopping in the next 2 weeks before school starts!

SirVixofVixHall Sun 23-Aug-20 12:51:18

I co slept until mine were about 8 or 9 and 6 I think, I don’t really remember. Then they shared a room and a big bed together for a few years, and then separate rooms.

Stompythedinosaur Sun 23-Aug-20 12:53:11

Not every night like when they were babies, but my dds jump at the chance to have a "sleepover" with me if dp is away overnight. We have had many holidays were I've dhared with the dds because of thr sleeping arrangements.

I don't think you need to worry unduly, as long as your ds had a bedroom space were he can have other kids to play, whenever we are able to do that again.

IwishIwasyoda Sun 23-Aug-20 12:56:30

yep - mainly because I usually fall asleep in DS bed after stories. We gave him our double bed when we bought a king so it's too comfy.

LittleMissEngineer Sun 23-Aug-20 12:57:18

Don’t Cosleep as such, but DS (10!) - comes in at some point - pretty much every night... So end up cosleeping for an hour or 5....

He’ll grow out if it (I hope!!!). He is otherwise a very confident and independent child; he just likes cuddles and company. That’s fine 😊

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer Sun 23-Aug-20 12:57:30

I split with my ex when ds2 was 7. In temporary accommodation we shared a room out of necessity, and when we were rehoused he still jumped in with me for a few years, even though he had his own room. It’s perfectly normal and natural, and entirely your choice. Three is still teeny tiny OP. x

trilbydoll Sun 23-Aug-20 12:58:19

My two start off in their own bed but often come in. I find by 3/4 they're getting a bit big and you don't always have a great night's sleep (depending on the size of the bed!) My 7yo definitely sleeps better on her own now but she doesn't always want to!

Itisbetter Sun 23-Aug-20 12:58:56

Let it drift away naturally there’s no need to force a change

SimonJT Sun 23-Aug-20 13:01:09

Until my son was four he always spent the whole night in my bed, not long after he started going to bed in his own room but he always wakes around 3/4am and then spends the rest of the night with me.

It doesn’t really matter what works for other families, what works best for your family is the most important thing.

Kittywampus Sun 23-Aug-20 13:03:10

I don't see why stating school would suddenly make co sleeping a problem?

My youngest still comes into bed most nights, he is starting school in a couple of weeks and I don't see a problem.

DrStrangesMagicDressingGown Sun 23-Aug-20 13:04:20


My 6 year old starts the night in his own bed but we regularly wake in the morning with him snuggled in between us.

Same here, with a 5yo and an 8yo (the older one has HFA).

AltheaThoon Sun 23-Aug-20 13:07:20

My 5 year old still co sleeps. I love it and it doesn't worry me at all. He won't be there forever.

itustiime Sun 23-Aug-20 13:09:09

Thanks so much everyone, I just didn't want him ... I guess the risk of being bullied for it. I co-slept with my mum until I was 9 and it was never an issue but I just wanted to check smile

We actually sleep in his room (he's got a double bed) so I would have to actively move out (I do think he will ask me to when he's ready)

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CarrotCakeCrumbs Sun 23-Aug-20 13:09:57

My 4.5 year old only stopped sleeping in our bed about 8 months ago, if it's working for you then there is no rush to change it. They won't want to sleep in our bed forever and if it means you are both sleeping well then that's the most important thing.

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