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7 year old saying to an adult ‘you’re being silly’- rude?

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ComeHereToMe Fri 21-Aug-20 17:13:23

DS is devastated because his teacher gave him into trouble for this today. He’s a very young 7 and genuinely wouldn’t have meant it in a bad way. He’s so upset.

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Dozer Fri 21-Aug-20 17:14:11

Eh?

mumsiedarlingrevolta Fri 21-Aug-20 17:16:08

Your DS told his teacher "you're being silly"?

I'm afraid I'm with the teacher on this one... think it crosses a line. Maybe he could say to you or a family member in the right scenario but without context/tone hard to tell.

Sayitagainwhydontyou Fri 21-Aug-20 17:17:16

Your post is jibberish - but yeah, it's not a particularly polite thing to say to a teacher. Maybe fine to a kid or a friendly adult, but not a teacher. Being a young 7 doesn't mean he's exempt from being pulled up on bad manners.

ComeHereToMe Fri 21-Aug-20 17:17:46

Yes, he did. I don’t want to ask him too many questions and bring it up again.

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Saucery Fri 21-Aug-20 17:18:13

Depends how it was said. During an activity where the adult was being silly - fine. In response to an adult saying or doing something the child disagreed with - not so fine. But I’d expect the adult to point out how it was a rude thing to say without making the child upset.

MrsMcMuffins Fri 21-Aug-20 17:18:29

It depends on the context

Farlow Fri 21-Aug-20 17:19:00

Yes, we need context.

Lucked Fri 21-Aug-20 17:19:26

What prompted your son to say it?

Davespecifico Fri 21-Aug-20 17:19:40

He’ll get over it. Just explain that we don’t talk to grown ups like that.

QueenofLouisiana Fri 21-Aug-20 17:20:25

Yeah, I wouldn’t be thrilled to get that from a child in my class. I gave out a few warnings when teaching online about the fact that we still need to show respect to each other. I think the children just forgot as they were at home all the time.
I wouldn’t be cross particularly, but I’d pick them up on it.

Cheeeeislifenow Fri 21-Aug-20 17:20:45

Sometimes adults are rude, sometimes they can get defensive when caught out, it depends on the context.

ComeHereToMe Fri 21-Aug-20 17:21:38

I’m not quite sure on the context and he’s so tired atm, so I’m quite happy to leave it at that and speak to him about manners tomorrow.

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latticechaos Fri 21-Aug-20 17:21:40

Depends I suppose. Doesn't sound the biggest crime in the book. Maybe the teacher has more info. I might ask the teacher if it was something or nothing.

Thehogfatherstolemycurry Fri 21-Aug-20 17:22:40

Sounds like your ds hasn't recognised that we speak to different people differently. What you think is ok to say at home isn't necessarily how we talk to a teacher who is someone in a position of authority rather than a friend/family member. You can help with this.

waltzingparrot Fri 21-Aug-20 17:23:34

I think there's two ways of saying that.
Laughing along with a jovial, deliberately silly action and the more accusatory way.

Ickabog Fri 21-Aug-20 17:23:42

I'm surprised you haven't asked him why he said it.

CoronaBollox Fri 21-Aug-20 17:24:04

In an answering back kind of way it can be a bit rude. Not exactly shocking but cheeky. If his teacher was making a funny face and speaking in a squeaky voice then not rude.

LittleHootie Fri 21-Aug-20 17:24:26

I guess the teacher is trying to get across the need for a level of respect. Bless him being devastated though. I'm sure he'll bounce back.

ComeHereToMe Fri 21-Aug-20 17:24:30

Sounds like your ds hasn't recognised that we speak to different people differently.

Yes, this is it. I’ll have a word with him from now on.

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wildcherries Fri 21-Aug-20 17:25:42

That's not a great thing for him to say to a teacher.

Martamaybe Fri 21-Aug-20 17:26:22

He may not have meant it in a bad way but it is not respectful. I would assure him that his teacher will not hold it against him but he must learn to speak in a more polite way in the future . Context is everything of course but if his teacher pulled him up on it I expect the reprimand was justified. I know how devastating this sort of thing can be for children and if I would reassure him but don’t undermine what his teacher said as that will not help him build a relationship with them .

ComeHereToMe Fri 21-Aug-20 17:28:12

I would reassure him but don’t undermine what his teacher said as that will not help him build a relationship with them

I do not want to undermine the teacher at all. That’s partly why I’m asking. His previous teachers were very cuddly and gentle and this teacher isn’t so it’s been a big adjustment for him this week.

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Cheeeeislifenow Fri 21-Aug-20 17:30:23

If a teacher was genuinely rude to a child, and it does happen, people are human. I wouldn't take issue with my child calling it out.
Example, older children but in my ten year olds class, the teacher roared at a child for dropping something by accident. Another child, after the one who was humiliated said, "you shouldn't have shouted, it was an accident". The teacher wasn't happy and said child was rude, I think the child stood up for someone who was being picked on unfairly. Respect is a two way street.

CharismaticVic Fri 21-Aug-20 17:49:17

ComeHereToMe

I’m not quite sure on the context and he’s so tired atm, so I’m quite happy to leave it at that and speak to him about manners tomorrow.

Why post on MN then if you don't know the context and don't want to ask DS more about it?!

How are we supposed to respond?

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