This is a FB one - I've got a mutual friend - not that close but we used to see each other a lot as have or had a good friend of mine in common.
We're friends on FB but not seen each other for years - she posted one of those banner quotes and it was something like 'I said this to my 5 year old and blah blah blah something to do like Trump said'.
I put a comment under it saying 'Oh I didn't realise you had a 5 year old' - no comment back - she has a photo of her with a young child about 5 who could be her DD.
I messaged her to say I was sorry if I embarassed her by asking but again no reply.
I'm not really bothered if she has another child or not - not really my business - nothing about pregnancy on FB.
Should I just do an Elsa and let it go?!
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CleverCatty · 20/08/2020 14:42
I don't really care either way as I don't see her. Just curious as to why it's a big secret. If it was me I'd just say 'this is Elsa, she's 5' etc
But why do you think it’s a secret?? You said yourself you don’t see her and haven’t for years and even back when you did you weren’t the closest friends but saw each other socially. Surely it makes way more sense to think this news simply didn’t reach you 5 years ago than to imagine she’s randomly decided to keep her child a secret from you 
? You’re totally overthinking this.
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But why do you think it’s a secret?? You said yourself you don’t see her and haven’t for years and even back when you did you weren’t the closest friends but saw each other socially. Surely it makes way more sense to think this news simply didn’t reach you 5 years ago than to imagine she’s randomly decided to keep her child a secret from you
? You’re totally overthinking this.I am overthinking this! I think it's because I fell out with our mutual friend and it wasn't pretty....
I tried to extend an olive branch to my friend I fell out with (we were really close) and exchanged Linkedin messages and then saw a really nasty comment she wrote on another mutual friend's FB.
oh gawd - now I know what happened seeing our messages - I had gone to see this friend and had dinner with her and some other friends (she was setting me up with someone) - there was a holiday I was supposed to go on with the other friend I fell out with but this friend told me she thought it wasn't happening and I said 'no I know XXX, it's happening'.
then there was an meeting for the other friend's birthday and after that when we fell out I think I might have sent a rude Whatsapp to this friend of the 5 year old - and I apologised to her via Messenger.
I just think - quite rightly she doesn't want communication with me in case it's drama and I don't blame her!
We definitely weren't close friends we just had the other friend in common but I saw her outside my friendship with the friend I fell out with. hey ho.
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Well, if someone said that to me, I probably wouldn't respond because I would feel like that person already said something obviously really embarrassing (to you) and I would not want to make a big deal out of it because I'd think you were probably already feeling foolish enough for leaving the comment. It could also be that because she has a child and probably a job and things going on in her life, she just hasn't even had time to think about it. I can't imagine she is in any way upset or thinking about some drama with some other friend you had in the past. I think you need to let this go. 
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