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RedElephants Fri 14-Aug-20 09:37:09

The neighbour who lives across the road from us, lost his wife 18 months ago to a brain aneurysm.
Hard to tell their ages but I would hazard a guess at Late 60s early 70s?

They are/were a very private couple, happy to have a brief chat if both parties were outside, think, getting in or out of cars etc

I've been home a lot just recently, lockdown and now school holidays, and have noticed that he doesn't go out much, maybe once a week for food shopping?
The week before last he came back from wherever he'd been and I just happened to be changing sheets etc in the front bedroom, looking out the widow. He was walking very slowly, stopping a lot as if to catch his breath, and looked like he'd lost weight his, clothing was very loose.
And he sat down on the boot ledge a couple of times, as if to rest?

However the last 2 days and nights his front bedroom Windows have been left open, they not been shut at all.
Most unusual, as the windows at the front of the house are/were never open, even when the wife was alive.

So what I'd like to know is, is there a team/agency who make welfare checks?
Im thinking of giving our local surgery a call, and see if they can help out..

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Michellebops Fri 14-Aug-20 09:41:26

There should be an adult social care team within your local council authority.
No harm giving them a call.

Amber0685 Fri 14-Aug-20 09:41:27

He is lucky to have a neighbour like you
Might be helpful to read.

JontyDoggle37 Fri 14-Aug-20 09:46:46

Just go and knock and his door and check he’s ok.

minnieok Fri 14-Aug-20 10:09:38

Call adult social services but also call on him yourself, he might love a chat. It could be hes struggling to shop and hasn't eaten enough too, help him order online for instance. You could also find out if he has kids, with the rules they may not be aware he's deteriorated

Starisnotanumber Fri 14-Aug-20 10:34:00

Knock on if he does not answer police will do a safety and welfare check involving forced entry if appropriate.

RedElephants Fri 14-Aug-20 11:45:17

Thanks for the replies

Have knocked before, he/they don't/didn't answer.
Lthough shortly after she passed, we had a conversation on his doorstep, I found out he has a couple of brothers, no idea where they live though.

They very rarely had visitors, it appears that there's even less now the wife has passed.
I don't think they have children, certainly not seen any in the 25+ years we've been here.

Like I say, very private people.

So I called my surgery, they're going to give him a call.
Maybe they'll get in touch with a next of kin if they have one on file?

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