I posted after my brother died, about my sister not giving back a car. In the end my parents did get it back.
There is now a new dilemma. A couple of weeks ago my parents went to my sister's house. The car broke down. My mum wanted to call the RAC (which they are members of), but my dad said it was too hot, and they'd do it the next day. So the car is parked on a grass verge, opposite her house.
Then Dsis's boyfriend googled what the problem might be, and told my dad he would fix it. Mum argued that they may as well use the RAC and get it brought home, and he agreed, then there's always been an excuse. Everyday dad would say I couldn't go over the next day as they were going to get the car (it is a few miles away), then there would be a reason they wouldn't go.
The other day my mum rang after she and dad argued over it, and she asked me to speak to dad. He said Dsis's had insisted he could do it, as he'd googled the problem. I said I thought it made more sense to at least use the breakdown service, and let them diagnose the problem, he got angry and said they don't do that (well we've used them twice this year and they have each time).
I suggested that they may want a mechanic to fix this problem at least - or if he wanted Dsis's BF to do it, then bring it home and do it in their private yard (the area he'd do it in, is on a major, busy road, and has lots of cars parked very close on the grass). Dad got angry and put the phone down on me, then phoned up to say the RAC would bring it back and his mechanic would look at it.
I have not once spoken to Dsis about this - I haven't spoken to her since the funeral.
Today mum told me Dsis and her bf had upset dad, as they are both very angry with me, and don't want to see me again. I asked why, and mum said because I told her that her bf shouldn't do the car... as I said I haven't spoken to her.
The RAC cover runs out in a few days, so I guess dad's hand is now forced.
I really don't understand why Dsis is so insistent that her bf fixes the car (he isn't a mechanic, though he is good at fixing things according to her, which surprises me as she's given me (via DP) her son's computer to fix, which I'm surprised her bf couldn't google how to do it!
I don't actually know how to address this. I'm not entirely sure why I'm the one who's caused the upset when I was trying to look out for mum & dad.
I also cannot fathom why Dsis and her bf are so dead-set against moving the car back to my parent's house, and fixing it there, why Dsis has gone hysterical at the suggestion of the RAC (mum's words).
I can't help but think the reason is that her bf is still after the car, surely someone who wanted to do a good deed would happily fix it in the owner's yard, rather than insist it stays at their house?
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Car not returned saga - continuation and family not talking.
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WishIWasSomewhereElse · 12/08/2020 15:34
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