I do know I'm feeling very fragile atm so I suspect it's me.
DH has just had a cancer diagnosis, surgery planned in 2 weeks.
I have a friendship group, 8 of us, 4 couples, who often meet up for mostly outdoor activities and/or lunch. Occasional trips away. We'd planned a trip at the start of lockdown, which I organised and which was cancelled.
Anyway, since the diagnosis they've all been in touch to say "here if you need me", "let me know if you want to go out for a walk/chat/coffee" which is nice, except that they've just arranged to take a trip similar to the one I'd planned and will all be away most of next week. We were invited but they must have known we can't go. DH is physically unable to do the activity and in any case has to isolate ahead of the op, which they know.
I know everyone's fed up and wants to get away from it all but it's really upset me that not only have they arranged the trip knowing we can't go but also that all my friends and their promised support are disappearing and leaving me just as I need them.
I do realise I'm very easily upset atm but surely as long standing friends they should appreciate that too and been a bit more considerate? Or, I can't expect them to put everything on hold just because I have to?
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FinnyStory · 05/08/2020 09:31
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