I just can't deal with life any more. There is just too much for me to cope with.
I am on maternity leave and have a lovely 9 month old who is great but very clingy and only naps on me. He sleeps ok but wakes once a night for a feed.
My older son has a severe disability. He would normally go to a special school with a one to one but has only had 2 days a week since march.
We started having an extension built in february pre covid and it has been a nightmare. We still have probably another 2 months without a kitchen and I am scared of another lockdown making this even longer.
As it the above wasn't enough my DH has now been offered his dream job in France. He wants to take it and I don't want to hold him back becuase it is a life changing opportunity for both of us in the long term due to the package and the ability to secure reidency before brexit however:
A) I don't want to take my son out of his special school unless we are 100% sure the move is right for us. My OHs job will pay for him to be home educated but if it doesn't work out I don't want to have to come back to the uk and fight for his place and ehcp again.
B) I am meant to be going back to work in November. I would love to do this but no idea how I can given covid and childcare. Our families live 100 miles away and gave refused to see us until there is a vaccine so zero support there.
C) My OH needs to be in France before 31st December because of brexit so he gets residency rights. No idea how this is going to work with covid.
D) My OH recieved a summons yesterday to do jury service in October. He is going to try to turn if down on the basis that he will no longer be in the uk but if it just another issue.
E) We currently have no windows on our extension so I have to stay in England until it is finished to make the house secure.
So the upshot of all the above is is that the plan is for my OH to go to France before 31st December and before covid shuts borders to secure his residence permit and for me to possibly follow with the family in 6 months or so if we are sure the move is right for us.
I meanwhile am left with zero support to deal with a severly autistic child, a baby, our extension build which is proving to be super stressful and no kitchen, not to mention trying to return to work in the middle of a pandemic.
Thanks for reading all of this. I just wanted to vent really as it feels like my head is going to explode with everything . If anyone has any advice for making my life slightly less stressful I would love to hear it.
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I can't cope any more
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Silverbirch89 · 02/08/2020 05:04
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