DH needs a major operation. If it goes well he should make a full, if lengthy recovery, but he has been warned it carries significant risk of death. If he doesn't have the op he will die. So, all a lot to deal with etc etc
However, that is not "the" issue. He has been NC with his parents and sister for approx 15 years and we are wondering what, if anything to do about telling them.
He absolutely does not want them thinking this is a cue to be in regular contact or, heaven forbid, turn up to see him.
However, he is concerned that if the worst happened, they would be furious with me for not telling them sooner and that would make a difficult time even worse.
They would blame me, no matter how much they were told it was his choice.
Is there a solution?
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Can anyone help me and DH think this through?
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Alloverthegrapevine · 29/07/2020 15:52
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