I have plenty of good friends, but I also find as I've gone through life that no matter how much I try to avoid drama and conflict, narcissists fall out with me and cause a big drama and big fall out about it.
To give a few examples:
Became friendly with a school mum who had a DS in my son's year at school, when the boy's were in reception, as the boys became very good friends. She was a narcissist and the second I wouldn't do something she wanted to (she wanted to go to the beach on a bank holiday with me but I was busy with other plans) she fell out with me and spent the entire 7 years my son was at primary school bitching loudly about me to others at collection time. She did go on to fall out with most other mums in the year but it was a hassle I could have done without.
Secondly, a woman I met through a hobby I've done for years. Again, obvious fairly early that she was a narcissist but I tried to be kind, and gave her lifts to and from the hobby and helped her in other ways. Cue her falling out with me one night when I was ill and couldn't give her a lift, and causing drama with others in our hobby group (hobby is netball BTW), saying I'd been mean to her.
Thirdly, the woman next door to us is a narcissist too; very unpleasant and self righteous, the kind that will bump into someone in the street then start effing and blinding at them! She makes lots of noise in their garden but gets annoyed if we even talk in our back garden, and finds fault in everything we do. She kicked up an almighty fuss when we wanted to take down a hedge on our boundary and put a fence there and to keep the peace we kept the hedge there but then she kicked off because she wanted us to trim it monthly on her side. We have gone out of our way to keep the peace and keep her happy but she makes it known that she does not like us. Her neighbours on the other side are frosty with us as no doubt she's told them some crap about us.
So, if you're lucky enough to never have had anyone determined to fall out with you, what's your secret?
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If no one has ever fallen out with you, what's your secret?
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Annabesque · 28/07/2020 23:05
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