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Some sort of pre 40 mid life crisis is this normal 😭(4 Posts)
So I decided I want to quit my nursery job and have an interview for a night job, 2 nights per week because I'm fed up with working everyday and hate the company I work for (not sure of I'm making right decision at all or even I like the job but I'm sick of myself moaning every day about not having the right balance). I've agreed to have a puppy, always wanted one but paying an absolute fortune for her which is another reason why I'm considering leaving my job. I've also booked in to have braces as again always wanted them but put off by money, it will enhance my confidence even if maybe I'm too old and fat now for it to enhance my appearance . I've also got this urge to dye my hair pink and go to a rave type concert as never been and just want to dance into oblivion (although happy with any live music right now). On top of this i want to book a holiday I can't afford to Iceland and a cruise on my credit card and say fuck it like is too short!! Inside I feel like I'm livng ground hog day and always playing it safe, same job, same partner, house, same clothes, hair, appearance blah, blah. I just want to scream some days. My life is good but dull and I'm getting older.
I think this is a bit worrying - assuming you are not having a manic episode which you might be - stop fucking up your life and slow down the big decisions. It could well be a pandemic response.
Well Theres a huge difference between enjoying yourself and storing up problems that are only going to come back to bite you.How about starting small and building up? Or only picking one or two things from your list?
I did this in my early 30s. I realised I wanted to do all the things I wish I had done in my 20s and didn’t. Holidays, brave hair choices, eyes lazered, festivals etc.
There’s nothing wrong with it per se but don’t do anything you can’t afford. Do not get into debt. Try the new job, you might love it. But do not do the holiday- save up and then do it.
Debt is not carefree or fun.
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