Firstly I’m sorry if people think this is a stealth boast it’s not intended that way at all.
Long story short we bought our house with the plan of extending it turning it from a smallish terrace to a good family home. We spoke to the bank a couple of years ago and they said we could easily remortgage to release equity and do this. Since then covid has obviously happened and we have had another baby so my pay is lower and higher childcare costs. We went back to the bank who can now loan us significantly less (8k instead of £35k!).
Disappointing but we accepted this and are grateful to have our jobs and a home at all really. I spoke to my mum and it came up as she knew our plans and I just said oh it’s not happening sadly will have to save/wait and see.
Next time I see them they sat me down (DH was working away) and said they would like to give us the money. Not a loan- just give it to us. They are both retired but have amazing pensions (4/5 times my salary now!) they worked incredibly hard but have always said they benefited from inflation and hugely rising house prices etc. The jobs they had wouldn’t earn anywhere near that salary now so they’ve been very fortunate with timings etc. But obviously it’s their hard earned money whether lucky or not.
When I say they have money they have LOTS of savings, good pensions, due inheritance in the next 20 years of £600k+ after tax and own a £2.5 million property which they plan to downsize out of.
They gave us money towards our first deposit years ago and to our wedding but it wasn’t a huge amount either time.
Would you graciously and gratefully accept? Or would you feel guilty? we are so lucky and privileged to be in this position but it’s such a lot of money I don’t want to be one of those entitled children taking their parents money.
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Would you accept this money?
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Napqueen1234 · 20/07/2020 13:23
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