Bit of background. I'm the black sheep. No real reason. I just am. I'm chatty, not career minded ;m(I'm a SAHM but not a penny in benefits if that counts at all) and sensitive whereas my family are.... different.
Dad is hard and can be nasty. He lives 300 miles away so not a huge issue there. I keep in touch, he acts annoyed, I get upset, he acts like I'm pathetic, and I still punish myself by attempting to make contact.
It's a bit different now as he is dying so he's less mean and is more willing to make conversation with me while we both have the chance. He has never approved of me but I've always sought his affection and approval. That's on me.
Mum is a complete narcissist who despite living 5 minutes away has never once popped over to see me or the grandkids even though she's in and out if my village all day long for anything from shopping to picking up takeaways. She takes no interest in anything but her, her DH, her friends and her real passion, her ponies. Fine. I hold my tongue when she posts those million -all for show- stupid FB memes about "if your grandkids mean the world to you...." shite.
DSis is just plain old nasty. Scathing and rude. (Every time we speak I envisage Nanny Plum and her "don't give a shit if I offend you" attitude). She's a put downer. Acts like every time I reach out to have a familial relationship I'm just annoying her and inconveniencing her. She still expects the phone calls and contact but will make me feel like shit every time I do.
So....I've done it.
My FB is deactivated and DSis's number blocked. I'm no longer chasing mum and I'll reduce calling dad to once a week until he passes.
I have my own family with my loving husband and fucking awesome three kids. I don't need to try and keep up a relationship with people who make no effort keeping one with me.
Wish me luck, guys. I need to be strong and not slip back into my old ways of contacting "family". It's doing terrible things to my self-worth.
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I did it. I cut them off
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HouchinBawbags · 10/07/2020 08:55
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