Do most people have a terrible secret which could ruin their life?

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aurynne Mon 18-May-20 07:59:43

Yesterday my DH and I were watching an episode of The Honourable Woman, and I found myself thinking back to all the movies, novels and series in which it appears that every character is carrying a dark, terrible secret which would ruin their life if it came to light. Often there is someone in the plot who, at some point, says something like "Everybody has a secret to protect", and the main character nods wisely, as if this was widely known and accepted.

I know it's fiction, but do you believe this is mostly true? Do you have a secret which, if revealed, would affect your or your loved ones' lives in a significant way? Of course I am not asking you to reveal it here (although if you wish, please be my guest, I am very nosey!), but please just feed my curiosity by saying YES (I have a dark secret) or NO (I don't have any dark secrets).

Personally, I think I must be very boring. The best detective in the World could not really find anything juicy to blackmail me with. My family is not going to find any skeletons in my closet (perhaps just some dust balls). I obviously have parts of my life that I prefer to remain in the private arena, but nothing worth going viral for, nothing that would really shock anyone or turn my life upside down by far if I published it today in The New York Times.

What about you?

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BikeRunSki Mon 18-May-20 08:02:33


GinWithRosie Mon 18-May-20 08:03:44

Nothing I'd be too mortified about...certainly nothing I'd be too embarrassed if my mum found out 😂

Jacobieathan Mon 18-May-20 08:04:02


BadJanetsMobile Mon 18-May-20 08:04:28

No very boring here. Id say my current biggest secret is that I want to leavr my job and basically demote myself for a bit more work life balance and even thats not a bad thing....

aurynne Mon 18-May-20 08:07:38

Oh my GOD @BadJanetsMobile, how can you live with yourself??? I am seeing the plot of the next internationally acclaimed crime/mystery bestseller here...

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GeriGeranium Mon 18-May-20 08:08:42

No, I have literally no dark secrets and am not aware of anybody close to me having any. Obviously there’s things I’d prefer to keep private but nothing that in any way would harm anybody if it came out.


vampirethriller Mon 18-May-20 08:09:09

My family have no idea that I was a junkie and prostitute, that I spent time in a mental unit and women's refuge, that I was homeless and then lived in a hostel.
I was hundreds of miles away from any of them at the time and didn't see them for years. I only spoke to them occasionally.

Pinkarsedfly Mon 18-May-20 08:09:49


Jjjjjj1981 Mon 18-May-20 08:11:29

I’ve got a couple of dark secrets, mostly from many years ago. But hopefully they wouldn’t be awful enough to ruin my life.

Packamack Mon 18-May-20 08:12:13

Not so much secrets, but I dread the day they perfect mind-reading technology.

BeatrixPottersAlterEgo Mon 18-May-20 08:12:32

No, I've one or two things I'd prefer to keep private and that I wouldn't particularly enjoy talking about if I had to, but nothing earth shattering.

LivingThatLockdownLife Mon 18-May-20 08:13:05


We all love some good drama. If only life were that simple!

GrapefruitGin Mon 18-May-20 08:14:00

Not bad enough that they would ruin my life but I certainly wouldn’t want them out there!

RickOShay Mon 18-May-20 08:14:09

flowers @vampirethriller. You rock.
Yes. Funnily enough I was thinking about this earlier. I’ve had a few dark patches in my life.

Weekday28 Mon 18-May-20 08:15:05

Yes. Probably nothing that could ruin my life but people would be shocked I think.

Frangible Mon 18-May-20 08:15:08

I do.

Windyatthebeach Mon 18-May-20 08:15:35

A few....
Don't ever sleep soundly or ever will..

BeatrixPottersAlterEgo Mon 18-May-20 08:15:52

Since I've been very young I've tried not to do anything that I wouldn't stand by if it was broadcast on the 6 o clock news grin

plunkplunkfizz Mon 18-May-20 08:16:27


Confused866 Mon 18-May-20 08:17:34

Yes, 3 separate things. One from years ago that probably wouldn’t ‘ruin my life’ but would cause some family problems and I would be very embarrassed. One that I just wouldn’t want people to know about as I’m ashamed. One that would turn my life upside down. I don’t worry about it day to day though as I don’t think the secrets will come out. I reckon more people than you think have secrets to be honest - no one in my life would guess I have any secrets and I’ve had a couple of friends confide certain things that I wouldn’t have guessed in a million years. Not all secrets are things that are really ‘wrong’ but I guess just stuff that doesn’t fit with everyone’s image of you and it would change how people see you.

BrokenBrit Mon 18-May-20 08:19:01

A couple of things embarrassing things I’d prefer my older parents to not find out from my younger days, but nothing too horrific or harmful.

Crystal87 Mon 18-May-20 08:20:10

Yes. My DH knows and so does a close friend and an ex. But it's not something I would want the rest of my family and new friends to know.

DailyKegelReminder Mon 18-May-20 08:20:19

Yes to one that would change my life from how it is now and upset a few loved ones. Keeps me up at night sometimes.

But isn't dark enough for most strangers to care about.

Caramel78 Mon 18-May-20 08:22:53


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