Aibu ex asking for money

[Anyoed]

So I posted before about my ex. I called the police non emergency number to have him removed making him homeless which I still.feel.awful about. The reason was him using drugs I begged him to leave but he wouldn't this was my last resort.

We have a 3 year old son together so still remains in contact. At first I helped him out with money even though I new it was probably going on drugs as he used to tell.me he could have a place to sleep that night if he had so much money. I felt very guilty as before we had are son he helped me a lot. I was.hit by a car ( he also stopped helping me but would tell everyone just how much he has to do for me)

So that's the background he never has unsupervised contact agreed by the ss but they did say he should see him but to ensure I have a safe route home and only in a public place which is have stick to.

Yesterday he messaged me asking for money saying he was mugged , I do think believe him as it's the 2nd time in 4 weeks he's told.me this. So I say no I do think have it sorry , he says he has no food sor I say all I have is £5 . He then messages telling me to get of my high horse and send him the money I have including the pennies. So I said.no u can bugger off. He then written in capital I'm the scum in this friendship and a load of nasty stuff.
Aibu saying no to him ? I'm so confused he nose how to make me feel guilty and like I'm a horrible person I'm pretty sure I'm not biu. But the debut is always there . I have asked him to Olympic contact me about r son but I'm sure he will ignore this. What are others opinion.

[CormoranStrike]

Ok I can’t follow a lot of that. But no YABU to give a drug user who you had to get removed from your home with police help YOUR money.

The scum comment alone would be enough for me to refuse.

[Anyoed]

Thank you. Sorry for the rubber writing. Just very upset at the situation. I made a decision not to help.a few months ago and stuck to it. It's hard I no it sounds really stupid but he is really good at making you feel as you are wrong. I'm pretty sure.if this was a guy I just met I would be more.like of u go u cf. The fact he does no what gets to me and uses it really hurts and he always makes me doubt myself.

[Travis1]

No, yanbu, that's money for you and your child. I'd bet he is paying no maintenance and not working? I'd no longer respond to any messages other than those regarding your child. He won't stop taking from you unless you put your foot down. Do not doubt yourself.

[Anyoed]

Travis1 you are 100% right he is not working or helping in anyway. Thanks so.much for.your message I just feel.as though I'm a nasty crazy scum bag after speaking to him. That is what I will.be doing only responding to messages to do with ds. I've had to go less contact slowly as he gets really nasty otherwise it's unberiable the chap he does. He threatened to kill himself a lot. I'm just starting to talk to people in real life about this as before felt like.I couldn't. I do think even go shopping in the same town any more information take an hour each way bus instead of 20 mins to avoid seeing him. It's the doubt he makes me feel. So thank you I no.it may seam.silly.

[maslinpan]

Please talk to more people in real life, they will reassure that his behaviour towards you is awful and you are right to start standing up for yourself. Don't give him any money, his stories are clearly made-up bullshit!

[sonjadog]

Don´t give him any money. That money you are giving him means less for your son. You told him you only had five pounds and his response was that you should give it to him. He didn't care that your son would have to go without. He only cares for himself and is a terrible father. You look out for your son first and let your ex take care of himself. That is what adults do.

[Whynosnowyet]

Not
One
Penny
Should
You
Give

[Anyoed]

Thank you all so.much I really do appreciate your message. It just confirms what I thought. Seriously thank you