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quicknamechange80 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:20:01

Sorry for the name change but I don't want this linked to my usual one just in case.
Super awkward, I live in a small village hamlet, (only relevant in thats everyone know everyone else) I'm in a committed relationship, dp moved in with us a year ago, all good smile
I'm usually no nonsense and very straight talking but I'm not sure how to handle this sensitively. There's a middle aged single, very nice guy who lives a few doors down, we are on saying good morning and occasional taking in a parcel terms etc but nothing more. I had a large bunch of flowers delivered today, from him, with a happy valentines note. Initially I thought it might have been a mistake, but no, he messaged me to ask if I liked the flowers and if I'd like to go for a drink. He only has my number as there was a village issue a while ago and we needed to contact each other regarding that, this is a new thing.
I don't want to embarrass him but this isn't appropriate, and I need to move on without awkwardness if possible.
How would people handle this, ignore, message back, pop over to see him and explain......?
Thanks.

Kittykat93 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:21:57

Just reply and say thank you but you are in a happy relationship and you aren't Interested?

Disneygeek30 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:23:53

I would message back and say thank you that’s a lovely gesture but
I have a partner, I hope we can move on from this without too much awkwardness. Then tell your partner, show him the messages be honest with him

Sparkletastic Fri 14-Feb-20 20:25:14

Reply and say thanks for the flowers but you are in a committed relationship with your DP. How presumptuous of him! He's not that nice if he's done this.

catchyjem Fri 14-Feb-20 20:25:32

Does he realise you have a partner?

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 20:30:40

What a lovely gesture!
How did you know my DP would forget!

quicknamechange80 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:31:06

Thanks, would something like this work?
Hi. Thank you for the flowers. I appreciate the gesture but as you know I'm in a happy, committed relationship so therefore I'll have to say no to that drink. Nothing needs to be awkward and I hope you had a good day.

I did tell dp who thought it was a sweet thing to do, just misjudged, and that I shouldn't be too cross with the gesture.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 20:32:23

Then you can say.....next time....DP didn't forget, afterall. But how lovely of you.

Bluntness100 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:32:27

Why do awkward?

Just text back and say thank you for the flowers, you really appreciate them, as you're in a relationship you need to decline the drink.

No biggie.

quicknamechange80 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:34:45

You see Bluntness that's what I would usually do, no issue but I spoke to a friend who said I needed to be careful not to make things awkward or hurt his feelings. (I'm constantly being told I'm too blunt so thought I'd seek more opinions)

Bluntness100 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:35:08

Gosh don't write nothing needs to be awkward, why are you making this such a big thing? You'd think you'd never said no to a bloke before.

Hi. Thanks for the flowers. They are gorgeous,,,anyway, sorry, but as I'm seeing someone, I'll have to say no to that drink. Thanks though and hope you had a good day!

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 20:36:12

Oops. I missed the drink bit.

Just be gracious, say thank you , but im committed.

Bluntness100 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:36:19

Cross posted, ignore your weird friend.

quicknamechange80 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:36:20

He does know I have a partner and I confess I wasn't too amused really, it felt disrespectful but dp (who is far nicer than I am) persuaded me it was just misjudged.

Bluntness100 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:37:26

I think you're really over thinking this op.

HalfBiscuit Fri 14-Feb-20 20:38:10

If he knows you're in a relationship and is still trying it on then he's a cheeky cunt.

"Thanks for the flowers, but as you know I'm in a relationship. Let me know if you'd like me to return the flowers so you can send them on to a single woman"

grin

quicknamechange80 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:39:00

Thanks bluntness for your bluntness grin I was right first time clearly, message has been sent minus the awkward bit.

quicknamechange80 Fri 14-Feb-20 20:40:54

grin halfbiscuit
Thanks all for taking the time to reply.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 20:41:57

Just say you liked the flowers
I send flowers to friends just not on valentine's day. Hate the hype.

It doesn't always have to mean romantic love.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 20:44:17

Sorry......cancel the cheque!

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