Need some ideas for how to manage the presents this year please.
We will be at PILs from 22nd to 26th Dec.
DHs other siblings and their children will all be there for 24th and 25th.
As a family we have all agreed to only buy for the kids and for PIL, and this is fine.
Discussions have been had as to what the children all want, and mine are the only ones who want actual gifts rather than money or vouchers. This is also fine, happy to give what things are wanted, but it means that on Christmas Day, mine will be opening gifts and the others will basically all have cards. I know that at least a couple of the other children will complain because they’re still at the age where size is all that matters in gifting, they won’t see that the value is equal. There is often a dig or two at DH and I for staying longer (due to distance, believe me I wish I could go for just a few hours) and I know from previous experience, the other siblings sit about and won’t parent the children, expecting mine to ‘share’ their gifts around. They aren’t things that will share easily and it always ends in fighting and tears. I don’t want that again.
Any thoughts as to how I can manage this? I’ve considered taking the gifts out to the car still wrapped and letting the kids have them once we’re home, but that feels unfair on them, or perhaps opening them on the 23rd when no one else is there, but DH thinks that would cause more problems as his parents are obsessed about everyone opening things one by one so everyone can see. Whatever I do I am sure it will be my fault.
Any other ideas or ways to manage this please?
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Chickenitalia · 05/12/2019 17:23
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