I'm sitting here in tears. I've been married 11 years, two children and numerous miscarriages, and DH hasn't been intimate with me for years. Even though we conceived our youngest it wasn't romantic it was just ttc. We haven't had decent sex for about 9 years.
He never hugs me in fact he doesn't touch me. He never calls me anything, like he just starts speaking to me he never uses my name or a nickname.
I feel like we are two people sharing a house. I've spoken to him about it so many times. Last time I said I wanted us to have counselling and he said no because "I can fix it myself".
But almost nothing has changed. I feel so lonely. I want affection and sex. He doesn't talk to me about myself. He doesn't know my thoughts or fears, he's just not interested.
And I don't know now if I even want to save things. Because it's been so long and I just don't think he cares.
But splitting would be a disaster for me. I don't work. I would end up in a tiny flat in a horrible area. And my family all love DH and would blame me.
I'm so sad. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped in a dead marriage. DH says he wants to fix things but talk is cheap and his actions don't match his words.
Should I force him to go to counselling? I only ever wanted to be loved and find my soulmate and it's all gone so wrong. I don't know what to do.
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Don't think I can carry on like this
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Concestor · 11/11/2019 22:24
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