I work P/T in a fairly low paid job. About 2/3 of my total income comes from benefits. At the moment my income is about 3/4 what DP earns. (Both lower rate tax payers...we're not talking millions!)
We're hoping to move in together next year, he and his daughter will move here as I'm in a S/O house whereas he is renting. But if he does I'll lose all my benefits so my income will be 1/4 of his.
I can't get myself convinced that he'll be happy paying for the lion's share of everything, particularly as he'll be going from a household of 2 to a household of 5. I just don't know how to divide things fairly.
So, given he'll be paying most of the bills, am I a cocklodger? I'll be doing after school care, though his daughter is 10 now so won't really need a lot.
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Would I be considered the female equivalent of a cocklodger?
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ValidVictorian · 22/10/2019 20:09
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