If you don't yet know what you are doing at Christmas, why not?

[Nextphonewontbesamsung]

If you haven't planned everyone's presents (never mind buying them).
The menu.
Who goes where and when.
What you are wearing.
What you are going to be doing on Christmas Eve.
And everything else ...

Why not? what is the reason for this?

I haven't given Christmas even a passing thought. It's only Mumsnet and the giant stacks of chocolate tubs blocking my way at the entrance to the supermarket that makes the word Christmas come into my head at this time of year.

I might pay attention to it in the last week of November when I buy my kids an advent calendar. Then first 3 weeks of December is fair game to get Christmassy.

Things is, to me this is normal. It isn't being disorganised or stressed or leaving it to the last minute. 3 weeks seems to be about the right amount of time to devote to doing Christmas. And I speak as the one who has mainly been the host for the past 20 years.

But am I unusual? Where are you my fellow people who are a bit more relaxed about Christmas?

[FourEyesGood]

You’re not alone, OP. I quite like Christmas but I don’t think about it until mid-November.

[OldAndWornOut]

I've no idea where I'm going or even if I'm doing anything much at all, and I couldn't care less.

[ClemDanFango]

I’ve started buying because it’s more manageable for me to buy bits now and put away for later.
Every year we’re usually last minute.com and end up stressing ourselves so we’re getting on top of it this year.
Do as you see fit I say, what ever suits you is what you do.

[PinkOboe]

It’s October. I’ve got a busy life. I’ll think about Christmas in the second week of December like i always do

[RainbowCookie]

Yep done absolutely nothing and won’t even give it a second thought until the end of November. Just my 2 kids to buy for, we don’t do this but for Everyman and his dog rubbish. Then just what and where to eat on Xmas day, decks are in the loft somewhere. No stress here.

[AlunWynsKnee]

I'm in the throw it all together in December camp. We're creatures of habit so apart from presents I know what needs doing and it's fine.

[LuckyLuckyWoman]

Not a clue. I work in retail, so no doubt I'll be working most of it :(

[Pindlesandneedles]

I agree! My birthdays at the end of November and I refuse to properly think about it until then. Plus one year I tried to be organised and bought presents and snacks early. I hid the presents so well I couldn’t find them and ate all the snacks! I’ve since decided that later is better!!

[blahblahblahblahhh]

I've got a work xmas party date in my diary and that's literally as far as I've got. Not even thought about it!

[Pumpkinbread]

Usually have already decided everything by now. This year I'm pregnant, sick & tired and will probably make some sort of vague decisions about what we'll be doing in early December. I suspect that I'll end up quite stressed having to do last minute shopping etc. but can't be bothered to think about it all right now!

[SummerHouse]

I think about it but I don't do anything. You forgot what you bought and where you his it. People may start a conversation in October with "well, I am all ready, presents wrapped etc." but I see that as a cry for help. Poor highly strung, anal things.

[Fuzzyend]

I like my cake to have time to sit and contemplate, so that gets made in October. And I need to know who is hosting so I have a rough idea whether I can or cant accept other invites. But the rest can wait. Autumn should be enjoyed first.

[WhatsMyName2]

No idea, will either do it in ours, the grandparents or one of the siblings. Not that bothered really. Presents can be bought in a day or two, or even online. Plus, it's October!

[HemlockStarglimmer]

I've asked for Boxing Day off. Otherwise just a bit of thinking what to get folks.
I usually get organised after Halloween.

[DramaAlpaca]

You're not alone OP. I refuse to think about Christmas until late November at the earliest. It'll all fall into place somehow, it always does.

[DonnaDarko]

I had a long post written out but realised I would bring down the mood of the thread, and I was bringing down my own mood.

Basically, we just don't care about Christmas, we've lost too many important family members near that time or recently. we'll put a tree up, and buy some presents, and do a dinner, but it's all for DS, who's 3.

[Parker231]

Christmas is in December - it gets sorted then. Family arrive from two other countries, food and drinks are ordered online and delivered. All Christmas shopping is done online by DH and I one weekend early December. With the 4 of us and 12 family staying for Christmas week it all comes together without any stress.

[PinkSpring]

DC2 is arriving end of December, it's hard to plan anything not knowing if I will a) be in labour, b) have a newborn or c) still be pregnant on Christmas Day!

I think it's going to be very low key this year!

[BeanBag7]

I would love to start planning now but the other family members won't commit to anything this early. Any attempt at discussion (any idea what the kids would like? Would anyone like to host or shall I? Which day suits everyone) is met with an eye roll and "we havent even thought about it yet"

[thepointoforder]

The only thing I've done is decide where I'm staying over Christmas. We have family all over the country so that is decided fairly early on so people can make travel plans/book leave etc.

We also have 6 family birthdays including two DD's either side of Christmas so I need to consider that, as depending on when Christmas falls can effect their birthday parties. 😫

It also means I get all the birthday gifts sorted in Octobe/November - but no Christmas in our house until the 1st December!!

[gavisconismyfriend]

I’ve done nothing, but not due to being laid back - just don’t want to open up the inevitable family-sized can of worms that is the who, what, where of Christmas

[somanyresusablebags]

I grew up in the USA and we have a no Christmas until after we celebrate American Thanksgiving rule. It helps with sanity.

[Caramelblonde70]

My sister and bro in law are going away for Christmas to a swanky hotel - smart move. I'm doing Christmas lunch at mine for me, 4 year old DS and my parents. Mum is not well so wont be able to cook a lunch now. Dad looked well grumpy when I offered; he'll have to leave his armchair for a few hours 😱😱 Christmas night I'll be alone. Probably drink wine, stuff my face with cheese and watch Love Actually. Merry Christnas! 🤣