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Come celebrate your ONLY CHILD

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MarthasGinYard · 13/10/2019 17:48

Apparently

They can be....

'Rude'

'Lack awareness'

'Spoilt'

'Unable to share'

'Lack manners'

'Lack stimulation'

'Socially reclusive'

And funniest of all they lead some kind of Mr Bean existence, sitting on a crate eating supper alone every night crying and neglected 😉

In reality my DC in fucking awesome in every way shape and form....

What about yours?

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iklboo · 13/10/2019 17:51

Yeah I read that tripe. DS is none of those things. Neither am I. Kids with siblings can show all those traits as well.

DS is

Funny
Kind
Caring
Loving
Generous
Always complimented on his manners
Has lots of friends
Independent & self-reliant
Sensible

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chomalungma · 13/10/2019 17:58

Mine is great. It's just me and him in the house so we have a strong relationship. He can drive me insane and he is very confident but he is fantastic to be around.

I can't imagine him not being here. I don't know how our house would work if there were more people!

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MarthasGinYard · 13/10/2019 17:59

Iklboo

Lovely to read

Dc also has many only DC friends and TBH they are all lovely, yet to meet a rogue only, although I'm sure they exist.

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elQuintoConyo · 13/10/2019 18:02

I share a DS with iklboo great manners, generous, kind, sociable, likes being in a group or at home, great with babies/toddlers (he's 8yo), great with his own age group, great with adults. Not precocious, not spoilt, not demanding , he hears the word no plenty!

People come out with some right fucking cobblers about single children.

My sister has resented me since birth, we're now mid-40s, it got boring really fast. DH is 3rd of 6, he now only speaks to one as the others are money-grabbing, spiteful tosspots.

My best friend is one of 9 and they are all delightful and have a great family bond, with all their children, too.

You never know if a sibling is going to be a blessing. We decided to stop at one, lovely pregnancy, shitty birth. I'm not less of a mother because I have one child.

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MarthasGinYard · 13/10/2019 18:04

'People come out with some right fucking cobblers about single children.'

Don't they just

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Yellredder · 13/10/2019 18:25

Funnily enough, I always found my daughter to be really good at sharing - much better than her cousin siblings. I figured it was just because if she had a friend round, she enjoyed playing with them so was happy to share - and I've never done the forcing to share thing.

I find her good company and far more outgoing than I ever was! She can also be infuriating! She's funny, is a fab mimic and very loving. We're very close and I love spending time with her!

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Charley1988 · 13/10/2019 18:57

Stereotypes about only children are s completely Myth!!

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TapertandEdkins · 13/10/2019 19:00

Mine is fabulous. She is 21 years old.
She is kind, empathetic, has always been wonderful at sharing and has lots of lovely friends. She is sweet natured and can be determined and independent when it is needed.
When she was young the stereotypes on here and in other places used to really get to me.

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BarkandCheese · 13/10/2019 19:02

I hid that thread, my DD is an only child squared* so by rights she should be completely unbearable. Funnily enough when she left primary she was one of a handful to receive an award based on the school’s mission statement, she won the Respect award for always being kind, helpful and respectful.

*My maternal grandmother was an only child, my mother was her only child, I’m my mother’s only child and she’s my child.

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Smokeyrobinson · 13/10/2019 19:04

My wonderful daughter will be 29 this month - she is our pride and joy! She has a lovely partner, many, many friends, has travelled widely, owns her own home (after working many hours overtime and saving like mad), is confident, outgoing and intelligent and in 3 weeks time she is due to give birth to our darling little grandson.

We are the proudest parents ever of our 'only one' and count our blessings every single day that we have our darling girl!!

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JigsawsAreInPieces · 13/10/2019 19:14

My DD is an only - not from choice but is the sweetest, most generous, caring, person I know.

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cometothinkofit · 13/10/2019 19:23

Mine - age 20 - is an utter delight.
She's charming, witty, kind, empathetic, loving, affectionate, thoughtful, has loads of friends, and will do anything for anybody. She's determined, forthright, will stand up for herself and others, and has a powerful sense of justice.
She also makes a mean cup of tea.

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Charley1988 · 13/10/2019 19:24

The love of my life is an only child - he is the epitome of emotional maturity

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RolytheRhino · 13/10/2019 19:27

Mine is absolutely lovely and thriving being the centre of our little family. I had intended to have two, but our little trio is so perfect I keep putting it off!

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Elderflower14 · 13/10/2019 19:27

My ds is profoundly deaf a d autistic... I nearly lost him when he had unexplained fits at two weeks old. I ran into the children's department holding him screaming for help. When he was eighteen months old I was told he was unlikely to walk or talk..
He now 23 and living semi independently in a flat.

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PowerhouseOfTheCell · 13/10/2019 19:30

I'm an only child and a fucking joy to be around Grin

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Bluddyhateful · 13/10/2019 19:30

Mine is caring, loving, emotionally intelligent and fantastic company. And so is her father, who is also an only child.

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DareDevil223 · 13/10/2019 19:34

I had to stop reading that thread as the total bollocks being spouted was giving me the rage.

My grown up DS is smart, kind and loving. He did brilliantly academically and is settled in his career of choice. We still enjoy spending time together and he is the light of my life., He isn't spoilt, sad, lonely or bad mannered.

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cherry2727 · 13/10/2019 19:36

My sis is all of these characteristics and there are 3 of us Grin. On the flip side , my ds is an only child and is soo sharing and loving! I love him to bits and wouldn't want him to have the toxic relationship I currently have with my sis with any sibling .

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Laska2Meryls · 13/10/2019 19:36

Mine is 28 and just fab.. and is also a boy ! (another thing not liked much on MN, it seems ) ..

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probablynotrelevant · 13/10/2019 19:37

My DD gets compliments where ever she goes for being polite and well mannered. She is intelligent, caring, generous, funny, confident and sociable. She is a happy, well adjusted little girl.

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MumInAMuddyPuddle · 13/10/2019 19:39

I didn't even look in on that thread tbh! Saw the title and scrolled on, knowing full well my blood will boil if I dared look...because I'm very familiar with many people's ignorant and misguided opinions about only children!

Saw this thread and thought it safe to enter. Hehe

I am very happy with my exceptional only child (by choice) and my DC has absolutely no need, we have a great bond and connection (DC says that and some have mentioned it) yet DC is kind, always helpful, considerate, offers to help other always, speaks up for injustice, doesn't like hurting others feelings and sensitive to own feelings, friendly and cheerful, wonderful manners and people always mention how "well-behaved" DC is wherever we go even when to us, it is just normal. Makes me wonder what kids get up to for DC's "normal" behaviour to be seen as mentionable and praise worthy!

DC is being raised to be a free thinker too and has opinions.
I have nothing to say to people who over populate the Earth like it's going out of style, have little time for each one and themselves because time is always shared and think that is the only way to be! Sorry not sorry!

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Laska2Meryls · 13/10/2019 19:39

whereas Im the middle one of 3 (youngest is a half-brother) My older sister (same parents) just hates me and always has right from the start ....she has never forgiven me for being born...

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MumInAMuddyPuddle · 13/10/2019 19:39

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Laska2Meryls · 13/10/2019 19:42

.. i love my younger bro, mind you , my elder sister also hates him ..

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