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Leapers out of bed v slow risers

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Zaphodsotherhead Wed 09-Oct-19 10:23:29

I'm now single (and loving it) but it's beginning to dawn on me that a LOT of my ex partners have been the 'open eyes, jump straight out of bed, no wallowing' types. I take a cup of tea and a bit of a wallow to get started, and if I don't have to be anywhere in a hurry I like toast and a fiddle around on the internet before I even get up.

So how have I ended up with so many men who open their eyes and literally HAVE to start the day there and then? (Unless it meant getting the children up, fed and off to school, in which case they would faff and flop about for England).

Is it generational? Sex-linked? Behavioural? Or is it just that some people like to start the day slowly and others think any time spent in a warm, comfy bed with a nice cup of tea is time wasted?

Cuppaand2biscuits Wed 09-Oct-19 10:29:14

Total opposite in our house. Me and my daughter are both up and at 'em types. My dh and my son can snooze and wallow for ages. Both absolutely useless first thing.

Picklypickles Wed 09-Oct-19 10:40:31

I'd like to wallow now and then but my bladder wont allow it and once I'm up you can pretty much guarantee my daughter will wake up too she sleeps like a cat.

MontStMichel Wed 09-Oct-19 10:44:23

DH is like that - considers the early part of the morning, the best time of day to do things! He leaps out of bed, gets dressed and is raring to go! I can’t stand it, after a lifetime of getting up for school/work/DCs’ school; I just like a cup of tea in bed and a leisurely getting up at weekends!

OliveOwl Wed 09-Oct-19 10:45:08

Definitely a slow riser. Read the papers online, check email before getting up. Don’t really like eating til I’ve been up and about a few hours either.

SimonJT Wed 09-Oct-19 10:45:47

Alarm goes off, get straight out of bed, test my blood sugar and then do a 45 minute workout.

Alarm goes off, snooze for about half an hour, get ready at a sloth like speed with a face like a slapped arse.

lazylinguist Wed 09-Oct-19 10:47:45

I'm a 'get up straight away' type, and always have been except when I was in my mid to late teens (pretty normal I think) and when I was at university (perpetually hungover).

Dh was a wallower when we met, but a combination of me, dc and dog have trained him out of it! I hate lying in bed after I'm awake. I'm actually pretty lazy, but I'd much rather be downstairs with a cup of tea, knitting on the sofa than lying in bed.

Zaphodsotherhead Wed 09-Oct-19 10:51:37

I spent twenty years jumping out of bed at cockcrow to get kids up, fed, off to school, usually having to be up and out for a run with the dogs before it got light. It always felt vaguely unnatural, so now, with all the kids grown up and gone, only one dog (who's very patient) and a job that I start in the afternoon, I think it's payback time!

XH, apparently, now gets up at 5am, goes in early to work, leaves early to do his come he couldn't heave his carcass out of bed to help me with the children when we were together?

OliveOwl Wed 09-Oct-19 10:55:37

There are two types of people in the morning

merryhouse Wed 09-Oct-19 10:57:19

I think it's just a "some people" thing.

My husband loves to lie in bed awake for ages, whereas (unless feeling ill) if I'm actually awake I want to get up.

He (still) doesn't realise this because I often go straight back to sleep so he thinks I'm "having a lie-in".

I don't mind this except when he says things like "you got up very suddenly this morning" (meaning "you got out of bed as soon as the alarm went off without heaving huge sighs and creaking") and EXPECTS ME TO EXPLAIN WHY.

thecatsthecats Wed 09-Oct-19 11:18:43

I am a get-up-and-goer because the alternative is torture.

When I lived a 2m walk from work, I tried to get up 1h before work. Half an hour of snoozing later, up I got.

Now I actually live a commute away, I set my alarm for no later than the last possible time to get out of bed, dress, drink a cuppa and be out of the door. No snoozing, much happier.

No problem with which way around we are, but my husband thinks he'll be able to get up and go, then fails. Leaving us both knackered by his damn snoozing.

BuzzShitbagBobbly Wed 09-Oct-19 11:25:12

If I have things to do, then I am up and at it in seconds, usually much earlier than I need to be.

If time is not of the essence, then I can sleep/doze/laze for England.

I have found through valuable research ( wink ) that my natural waking time is a good 1.5-2hrs after my alarm on office days....

MontStMichel Wed 09-Oct-19 12:07:02

I too believe that I am a natural night owl. DH wants to go to bed 10 - 10.30 pm at the latest, because he needs a good 10 hours sleep; whereas I can work until the early hours if I have to! IMO, 8 hours sleep is ample!

Damntheman Wed 09-Oct-19 13:53:09

I am no leaper, I am a grim determination to open eyes and haul myself out of bed immediately type atm. When left to my own devices with no school run or kids waking me up I will wallow til the cows come home! Sadly my husband is also a wallower and apparently not as endowed in the grim determination department. Fortunately I have a firm kick to get him started so I'm not doing it all on my own ;)

Damntheman Wed 09-Oct-19 13:54:02

I hate the snooze button with a passion and refuse to use it. DH will use his but only once because he doesn't want to die ;) It's been better since he got a smart watch and can use the vibrate alarm on that which I don't notice.

Zaphodsotherhead Thu 10-Oct-19 09:04:44

Because I don't start work until the afternoon, I very rarely have to set an alarm, which is lovely! Waking up in my own time, going back to bed with a cup of tea, sitting in bed with my laptop doing some work and fannying about on the internet is the best way to slowly come to terms with the world.

XP couldn't see the point of being in bed if awake. It was 'eyes snap open, right, the dog needs a walk...' and never breakfast in bed 'because it might make a mess'.

Tea and toast in bed on a day when there's no rush is one of life's little pleasures, as far as I am concerned!

AliceLittle Thu 10-Oct-19 09:50:54

DH and I both are early risers and we're up and about but I'm not much of a talker and need a bit of quiet to get my brain engaged whilst I'm pottering about getting dressed. Whereas DH will be chattering away asking me questions about the holiday insurance we need to sort out for next summer or how many degrees in an angle of a hexagon or asking me the name of the restaurant we visited in Amsterdam 3 years ago.

Deathraystare Thu 10-Oct-19 10:10:52

I've always been an early riser (oh ok not when I was a teenager admittedly!! As my parents would tell you if they were still alive!!). This may be linked to my blasted weak bladder. I am up every couple of hours to pee so no point in lying in. Of course on a day off I may go back to bed to watch a bit of tv but I never go back to sleep.

A friend I used to go on holiday with is the total opposite. I used to get dressed in the dark and either sit on the balcony if there was one in the hotel or go for a walk before she got up.

LuxuryWoman2018 Thu 10-Oct-19 10:13:00

I’m an early riser these days, I want breakfast almost as soon as I open my eyes so have to get up.

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