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Tips for (trying to) sleep next to a snorer

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DrMadelineMaxwell Wed 14-Aug-19 01:12:19

Short of shoving a pillow on his noisy face.
Dh can drop off in an instant. And instantly starts snoring.

No spare room to decant to either.

ParrotsForLife Wed 14-Aug-19 01:13:54

I use these with DP

Quellium Wed 14-Aug-19 01:15:09

I would love tips as I'm currently on the sofa listening to him snoring through the ceiling. I feel murderous. angry

Quellium Wed 14-Aug-19 01:15:53

I can't use ear plugs as I need to hear if the baby cries. sad

Smotheroffive Wed 14-Aug-19 01:16:26

Its unfair of him to stop you sleeping.

He needs to do something, not you!! If he wont, then he needs to take himself out the bedroom

Inconsiderate git!

Spacerader Wed 14-Aug-19 01:16:50

Sorry no tips, my dp snores like crazy. I have just got used to it, but there are times I would love him to shut up. So I feel your pain.

I can hear him now and I’m sat in my bathroom having just got out of the bath because I couldn’t sleep.

disneydatknee Wed 14-Aug-19 01:17:07

My husband snores and I am a light sleeper so its hard work! But we go to bed at different times. I find if I go to bed a couple of hours before him, I'm in a deep enough sleep once he comes to bed that his snoring doesn't wake me. Also, we got a large bed so he can stick to his far side and he's not fog horning right into my ear. I wear ear plugs too. It does still wake my sometimes but I shout at him to roll over and he does. That gives me long enough to fall back asleep. It's hard work I know but he can't help it. I try not to take it out on him.

ParrotsForLife Wed 14-Aug-19 01:19:17

I still hear DS through the baby monitor with ear plugs in. Baby noise is hard wired into Mother’s after birth. Helps me tune out DP though.

avamiah Wed 14-Aug-19 01:20:41

No tips except he should be on couch or floor.
Maybe good quality ear plugs ?
Or last resort would be to order a folding camp bed and mattress for him .

onemorecakeplease Wed 14-Aug-19 01:21:13

I used snoreeze with my ex. It was a minty spray he sprayed on the back of this throat and it worked brilliantly!

Got it from Holland and Barratt IIRC

CilantroChili Wed 14-Aug-19 01:27:13

Women put up with so much. Sorry, no solution but eventually I had to sleep without him (and his massive fucking David Attenborough documentary bull walrus snoring and I haven’t missed it).

tryingtobebetterallthetime Wed 14-Aug-19 01:32:28

For those who need to hear a baby, I use one earplug. I sleep on my side and use the earplug on the side facing up. The pillow muffles the sound for the other ear. Not ideal but it helps.

Ornery Wed 14-Aug-19 01:35:31

I use earplugs. I spent a year wandering round the house and trying to sleep on the sofa. First type didn’t fit. Second type worked a charm. I still hear my alarm, but it takes the edge off the chainsaw.

avamiah Wed 14-Aug-19 01:36:20

Haha haha
I like your honesty, I have been in that situation and it’s just horrendous .What gets me is that the noise they make doesn’t wake them up even when you try your best to turn them over onto their other side 😱.
And the ridiculous thing is that if anybody tried to move me in my sleep I would wake up straight away, so I just don’t get this deep sleep they seem to be and this terrible snoring .??

Smotheroffive Wed 14-Aug-19 01:38:12

It is frankly ridiculous that anyone should be subjected to sleep deprivation by another whilst they sleep soundly!!

Does he he worried, concerned about the effect he's having on you? I wonder. I think hes making his problem, your problem

Mileysmiley Wed 14-Aug-19 01:39:45

Pinch his nose until he stops.

DrMadelineMaxwell Wed 14-Aug-19 02:26:39

Has he any control over it? No. And hes multi talented so can snore whether he sleeps on his back or his side.
I wouldn't expect him to sleep anywhere else as its not in his control.
Nor would his 6 foot 3 Frame fit on our sofa.

Dd1 is off it uni soon. Dd2 will have her room and I will use dd2s old room as a safe haven In term time.

I think it is also not helped as its rage hols for me which means I can lie in and catch up with sleep in the morning.

But then I'm not ready to go to bed in time to be asleep before he is.

I have ear plugs but they only help a bit.

DrMadelineMaxwell Wed 14-Aug-19 02:27:45

Ha! Rage hols seems appropriate.

School hols I meant.

LiveInAHidingPlace Wed 14-Aug-19 02:33:19

Buy a mattress for the living room if you have space. You can look for sleeping mats on amazon, they're the Asian style ones that you can fold up every night.

If you use the yellow and pink earplugs (just google that phrase and they'll come up), you probably won't hear him. No other earplugs work for me.

He does have some control over it though. they're are loads of things doctors can suggest.

Mileysmiley Wed 14-Aug-19 02:40:36


Don't get me started on sleeping in living rooms again! I just got him to go to bed after falling asleep on the sofa yet again ..

Theimpossiblegirl Wed 14-Aug-19 04:18:03

I find that if I move to the sofa or dds bed I can't kick nudge him! I used to be nice but actually why should I be awake while he sleeps soundly. Now I wake him up and go to sleep before he starts again.

LiveInAHidingPlace Wed 14-Aug-19 05:32:20

miley if he's snoring and keeping you up, what's the issue?

My husband and I sleep apart more often than not because he snores and fidgets and it makes me detest him. We're both far happier sleeping apart during the week.

It's not set in stone that couples have to share a bed.

Mileysmiley Wed 14-Aug-19 05:43:12


He isn't a snorer he is sofa dweller and I am trying to get him to sleep in a bed because my new cream sofa arrives in 2 weeks time.

LiveInAHidingPlace Wed 14-Aug-19 05:44:11

Miley...ok...I don't really see the relevance as I was responding to the OPs question.

justilou1 Wed 14-Aug-19 05:58:16

Get a bulk pack of ear plugs... as soon as he is lying on his back with his mouth open and jaw relaxed, take a long, hard look at him and ask yourself why you were attracted to him at all.... then grab a handful of those earplugs and start shoving them up his nose, in his ears, in his eyeballs and down his neck.... up his arse if you want.... This bastard has been keeping you awake ffs!!! (*I’m 17 years in and he has just bought a CPAP machine when he woke up to a blown up poster of the widow from Kill Bill standing next to his side of the bed and me on the couch - tears and losing my shit didn’t work, neither did humiliating him publicly by playing recordings of him on my phone and showing comparisons in decibels....)

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