Talk

Advanced search

My small baby doesn't like her legs far apart in front wearing carrier

(36 Posts)

MNHQ have commented on this thread.

SusannaAndSue Tue 11-Jun-19 22:03:51

My baby is small for her age. She's 20 weeks and about 11 lbs. I used a Close Caboo when she was smaller but it was tricky to alter and she didn't like it once I had to adjust it and couldn't get it right!

Her legs don't go around my body like a frog like all the photos of babies in carriers. I think it's because she's small. Plus its so warm and she easily gets hot. I worry about her hips being forced into a position that's not comfy for her.

But the sling library ladies told me she's too little/young to face out.

Basically are there any carriers that hold their legs in more of a seated position. Facing in or facing out. She's happy sitting facing out on my hippie chick but I still don't have both hands free! I'm sure other people with small babies have had similar experiences?

LilyMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 13-Jun-19 12:09:01

Hi @SusannaAndSue,

We're just giving this a bump and moving it over to chat for you. flowers

TheJoxter Thu 13-Jun-19 12:11:31

Ergo carriers have an insert for small babies which means they don’t have to spread their legs right out

yiskasha Thu 13-Jun-19 12:17:34

Second for Ergo carriers. I nanny for a baby who was really small for his age and we used the insert for the Ergo and it worked much better for him.

Stillterrified Thu 13-Jun-19 12:21:22

I’ve found ring slings the best

the legs only have to go as far as is comfy, it can be used with the legs in or out

You sit the knees higher than babies bottom so the weight is on their bum. Completely adjustable too so should easily get it fitted right with just a few tugs

Fibbke Thu 13-Jun-19 12:24:47

Do they still make the old fashioned wilkinet? Best sling ever (i had an early baby who was tiny and two older kids so needed hands free!)

Bluebelltulip Thu 13-Jun-19 12:29:29

I used a wrap sling for my daughter until she was over a year old. It wouldn't force her legs any further than she wanted.

OhWifey Thu 13-Jun-19 12:39:22

Another vote for the ergo insert which has them slightly more sitting with legs bunched up rather than spread round you

spiderlight Thu 13-Jun-19 12:52:26

Another vote for a ring sling.

SusannaAndSue Thu 13-Jun-19 19:28:10

Brilliant thank you. I found some ergo and inserts on eBay. I'll definitely give them a go. I tried a ring sling at the library and it was ok but I found it a bit awkward to get right. I think I'm too impatient!

crustycrab Thu 13-Jun-19 19:29:46

Don't have her facing out, it's really not good for her hips. Does she need to be in a carrier rather than a pram?

TuckMyWin Thu 13-Jun-19 19:33:31

Noooo not ebay for an ergo! It'll likely be fake- it's the most faked carrier out there, and if a fake, won't be properly safety tested. If buying an ergo second hand or on eBay please also ask to see original proof of purchase. I wouldn't even trust an ergo on Amazon, tbh....sorry. It is a good carrier for littles though!

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee Thu 13-Jun-19 19:35:55

Be careful with ergos on ebay there are lots of fakes.

Can i just check when you say 'her legs don't go round my body like a frogs' are you expecting her to sit in the carrier with her legs wrapped around your waist?
If yiu think of it like an M rather than a frog that may help - so bum is the bottom of the M then the carrier fits into babies knee pit and is above the bum so there is a bide deep seat and the knees are the top of the M then the legs hang down.

I've probably not explained too well but she shouldn't have her legs stuck straight our round you or straight down (like with a narrow carrier)

I think all carriers or wraps will take a little time to get right initially but then can be done quickly. So even ring slings, woven wraps. A buckle carrier can be quick but you still need to make sure baby is in a position that is comfortable and supports h e TICKS guidance

InterestingShipNames Thu 13-Jun-19 19:35:55

You can use a hairband to make the base narrower, until she grows into it. But if you can, go and get some hands on help from your local sling library. It’s so much easier to fix these things in real life than online!

SusannaAndSue Thu 13-Jun-19 22:38:02

Thanks. Yes I've been to a library a couple of times. We get her legs in the proper M but it still seems too spread. But maybe I'm not giving her enough chance. She always seems so relieved when I take her out!

I won't buy one on eBay after all your advice, thank you. I didn't know there were lots of fakes

I own sheep and push a pram across bumpy fields twice a day. It can be quite gruelling 😄 An occasional trip in a sling instead would be good!

VenusClapTrap Thu 13-Jun-19 22:46:25

Not all babies like slings. One of mine much preferred the pushchair.

DoctoraNova Thu 13-Jun-19 22:54:45

I recommend an unstructured soft sling (eg Kari-Me). Agree not to force hip abduction.

NanooCov Thu 13-Jun-19 22:58:43

There's a really good Facebook group called Affordable Baby Slings for Sale or Swap - they're very good at weeding out fakes on there so you'll be pretty safe.

BunnyTeapot Thu 13-Jun-19 23:13:11

Use a stretchy 😊

Whyismycatanasshat Thu 13-Jun-19 23:55:59

We have an ergo, a baby who started off small and livestock.
The Ergo has been amazing. TK Maxx often have them on offer online.
They’re completely machine washable too, it makes such a difference when they’re being licked and chewed by goats as well as the baby!

SusannaAndSue Thu 13-Jun-19 23:59:40

Great! Would you recommend the Ergo 360? There's a few types

Fantababy Fri 14-Jun-19 03:18:14

The Ergo360 is great. My 11 week old DD has just outgrown the insert but she spends a lot of time in the Ergo.

WhenZogateSuperworm Fri 14-Jun-19 03:24:01

I’ve got an Ergo 360 and my 12 week old has just stopped using the cushion part of the insert but is still in the shell for neck support. She had mild hip dysphasia when born and so we had to be careful about making sure her legs were always in the front position.

Trixibell79 Fri 14-Jun-19 03:28:04

Once you get used to tying a wrap this would seem to be best for a small baby’s legs. You can leave it on you under a coat and if breastfeeding some people feed whilst they are In it. I didn’t like ring slings either but I loved the stretchy soft fabric of this sling. I used a Moby one - similar to Close I think for 2 of my DC. My son especially liked the newborn hold position for a good few months as it allowed him
to tuck his legs/cross them which is a position he naturally adopted.

Trixibell79 Fri 14-Jun-19 03:29:08

PS I used the Moby for a good 10 months- baby around 50th centile

Trixibell79 Fri 14-Jun-19 03:33:14

www.naturalbabyshower.co.uk/products/moby-classic-wrap-black

Whyismycatanasshat Fri 14-Jun-19 07:24:41

The Ergo 360 with taco insert and cushion is the one I’ve got; I like the fact you can be flexible with the insert/cushion my little one was out of the taco at 14 weeks but used the bum cushion until about 20 weeks.
The fact you can narrow the bit where baby sits for forward facing seems much more comfy too.

SunshineSpring Fri 14-Jun-19 07:41:39

I think I'd got for a stretchy wrap and some form of newborn hold at that age. I cant remember how old mine were when I switched wrap position, but in the early days they can go in legs together, sideways across you, rather than front to front, iyswim?

HavelockVetinari Fri 14-Jun-19 09:05:52

Can I echo what a PP said about forward facing? It's so bad for a baby's hips, even older ones. It really shouldn't be encouraged.

HavelockVetinari Fri 14-Jun-19 09:07:14

boba.com/blogs/boba-reads/nine-reasons-not-to-carry-your-baby-facing-out

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee Fri 14-Jun-19 19:30:46

I don't think it's recommended to have babies sideways across you as you can't monitor breathing etc.

Vanannabananna Fri 14-Jun-19 19:35:52

This is my husband wearing our daughter at 6 weeks about 10lbs in the ergo adapt. We still use it now at 14 months

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee Fri 14-Jun-19 19:36:51

Sheffield sling library is a really useful source of credible trusted information
This article explains positioning well
www.sheffieldslingsurgery.co.uk/new-to-slings/how-to-use-a-sling-safely/

SunshineSpring Fri 14-Jun-19 19:54:29

Coffee maybe I didn't describe it very well.
Like this which is similar to one mentioned in your link.

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee Fri 14-Jun-19 20:15:16

Ahhh sunshine that makes more sense. smile
I thought you meant sideways like you would hold a baby in your arms in a bag/pouch sling style.which can obviously be dangerous.
Although at 20wks I think ops dd would be fine upright in a stretchy or woven as the fabric won't be as 'hard/inflexible' as a buckle type carrier.

TheSheepofWallSt Fri 14-Jun-19 20:18:49

Ergo baby was great for us and we got away with it until he was about 18 months (and then my back couldn’t take any more).

The taco insert was awful and didn’t work at all for us- but otherwise fab.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, quick, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Get started »