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whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:02:34

Where do we all stand with teenage kids playing in the garden? Especially when it's terraced houses.
My boys are sport mad, they play in football, basketball and cricket teams in and out of school.
At least half an hour but no more than an hour a day they're in the back garden kicking, throwing or bouncing a ball. There's no excess shouting.
Is this ok? They do go to the park, team practice etc but just like a muck about in their own garden.
I feel this is acceptable and wholesome behaviour, but a neighbour doesn't.

SuperLoudPoppingAction Mon 25-Mar-19 16:06:50

I'm in a terrace but we have nice high stone walls between the houses.

I can't really hear the kids 2 houses along when they play out.

I would possibly notice children in the next garden where there's just wooden fence panels.

If it was quiet 'pass the ball' it would not bother me at all.

If it was sweary 'banter' it would possibly bother me. Whether it was loud or not.

Magenta82 Mon 25-Mar-19 16:08:25

Sounds perfectly normal and acceptable to me.

What is the nature of the complaint? Is the ball going into the neighbour's garden? Bouncing the ball against the adjoining fence? Are they having conversations that would be better in private?

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:09:50

Definitely not sweary banter, even if it annoys a neighbour it's only for 1 hour max. I feel we as a family are entitled to use our outside space. Would you stop your kids because of it?

IVEgottheDECAF Mon 25-Mar-19 16:11:03

I wouldnt stop my dc using the garden for this no

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:11:04

No ball against or over fence

Summer23 Mon 25-Mar-19 16:11:12

Absolutely fine for kids of any age to play sport in their own garden.

ems137 Mon 25-Mar-19 16:12:19

As long as they're not hitting the neighbours fence or property I can't see an issue. I wouldn't think twice about younger children playing sporty games in their own garden so why would teens be any different?

Obviously your kids will know to be respectful of their neighbours so wouldn't be shouting and screaming.

One thing that used to annoy me about one of the neighbours kids was when they used to repeatedly kick their ball at their own wall/fence. That repeated thud was just annoying although I obviously never said anything about it!

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:14:38

The complaint was neighbour shouting out their upstairs bedroom saying it was annoying and can they stop? Eldest son came in, I said continue for another 10 mins, that took it up to half an hour. I was waiting for neighbour to come over but she didn't

gleegeek Mon 25-Mar-19 16:15:42

Absolutely fine. It's their garden IMO. No swearing/excessive shouting but also wouldn't expect artificial quietness. They should not be made to feel uncomfortable in their own garden but should be mindful of neighbours and how noise travels.

Littleduckeggblue Mon 25-Mar-19 16:18:00

It wouldn't bother me at all. In fact, I'd quite like it. Nice to see children playing outside rather than being on computer games.

ijustdontunderstandher Mon 25-Mar-19 16:18:06

It’s their garden, they aren’t doing anything that’s damaging the neighbours property, or swearing. We have a terraced house and all the kids play out pretty loudly in the front garden, and there’s an alley at the back where all the houses are connected and they play back there with no complaints. Does your neighbour expect your DC to stay in the house all day?

Smotheroffive Mon 25-Mar-19 16:19:06

Enjoy your garden and celebrate that DS want to be so active, definitely don't put a stop to it!

I would assume that if they are being loud you can hear what's being said and its just high jinks type chatter,nothing offensive?

You shouldn't have to be skulking around in your own garden! That's ridiculous!

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:20:26

No kids plays out the front here, and oddly no kids play in the gardens either apart from mine. There's a trampoline a few houses down, which has had very little use.

CaseofEllen Mon 25-Mar-19 16:23:00

In the nicest way possible, bollox to your neighbour! Your kids haven't done anything wrong, the garden is part of your property. Enjoy it!

IWannaSeeHowItEnds Mon 25-Mar-19 16:23:55

Kids are entitled to play in their own garden. So long as they aren't throwing cricket balls that could break neighbours windows or banging against the fence, then they have every right to be out there.

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:24:17

Also what would you say to this neighbour shouting out her window to my boys or if she comes round?

Magenta82 Mon 25-Mar-19 16:28:37

Also what would you say to this neighbour shouting out her window to my boys or if she comes round?

I'm sorry you feel that way, but they aren't doing anything unreasonable and we have a right to enjoy our garden.

Goatrider Mon 25-Mar-19 16:33:27

I'm outside at the moment and can hear kids a couple of houses down playing, shouting, singing. I think they're on a trampoline. I think it's lovely to hear kids enjoying themselves outdoors.

If your neighbour comes round I would ask what exactly it is he has a problem with. I've never heard of anyone complaining like this, unless the ball keeps going over the fence.

onalongsabbatical Mon 25-Mar-19 16:35:57

Absolutely fine. It's their garden and they and you are aware of others and respectful. The problem is the neighbour, not you.

onalongsabbatical Mon 25-Mar-19 16:37:24

If she's shouting out of the window at them I'd be very very tempted to ask HER to keep the noise down. Sorry, that's not very helpful.

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:39:04

Mag
That's the type of reply I had in mind and feel ok to say now that we're not doing anything wrong. Youngest son in garden now shooting some hoops, will see how this pans out

cjt110 Mon 25-Mar-19 16:40:05

There's a big difference between kids kicking a ball against a boundary wall/fence, shouting and swearing etc to just playing and have a kick about.

As your neighbour didn't say anything after you told them to carry on, hen just ignore them and let the kids be kids. Nice to hear of teen kids wanting to be OUTSIDE and not on the xbox

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:40:37

Goatrider- he's a she which makes it even weirder

whattheactualfuckery Mon 25-Mar-19 16:41:53

Onalong
lol don't tempt me!

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