Friend 1 (known 6 yrs) : I have seen this friend a grand total of once,since Halloween 18. Saw her Halloween and then again on 29th Dec ,both times at my home where I invited her and laid everything on. 1 WhatsApp msg from her end of Jan just 'catching up' she lives 22 mins away, is a single parent and works 15hrs pw with 1 teenage DC. Has great extended family support network around her daily that also facilitates nights out and social engagements etc.
Friend 2 ( known. 7 yrs) : Calls me up and sees me when she is going through drama ( minor, my Dc didn't get into my first choice sch , you are religious and go to church so really friendly with the priest ,how do I blag fix this.... and btw my back really hurts , can you pick me up..,, and my coil has to be replaced type issues ) and then disappears for months until next issue. Last time I saw this friend was May 18. During which time I have had paternal bereavement , family MH issues ( not mine) & separation to name a few . All of which I have had to cope alone. All fairly high up on the stress scale. I reached out to her but she has been so very busy she hasn't not been able to see me. Not seen her for dust! Again, works 10 hrs pw and 2 teenage kids and is happily married with great extended family support around her, facilitating her choices. While I have been coping she has been hosting dinners and attending coffee mornings, with those who by her own admission are ' fake' and ' fair weather' .
Both appear to have lots of free time as it's all over FB. Meeting friends, beauty treatments, coffee mornings and lunches with other friends. Am I expecting too much from people? Is this normal for friendships these days?
Or, It's just me they use ? Am I only just now waking up and smelling coffee or am I being precious and unfair to them?
You should really see
your friends, when they live locally, at least more than once in 5 months in case of friend 1 and again more than once in 12 months with friend 2 surely?
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MargaretOfAnjou · 22/03/2019 17:40
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