Apparently I'm too old!!

(135 Posts)
watfordmummy Wed 20-Mar-19 19:17:24

So last night I was on FB and saw a decorate a post saying there were still places available on a cookie decorating workshop.

Well I love that crap, and sent a PM to say interested. The lady came back to me to say to reserve place I should pay. I duly did, and thought would introduce myself further.

The group was called first mummies club, but I assumed it was like Mumsnet so ALL mums welcome. Boy was I wrong.

"Normally, First Mummies' Club is aimed at Mums of primary school aged children and below.

When other Mums have approached me before who have older children, I've suggested alternative groups that may be more suitable."

Really?? I'm not welcome to do crafts as I have older children??

As you've paid me, I'd be happy to have you on this occasion.

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oldmum22 Fri 22-Mar-19 09:36:41

This is local to me but like OP I don't qualify (age and teenagers). I think I prefer the Hot Flush Club with additional biscuits and cake . I get why the owner thought she had a USP but in this day and age it smacks of ageism . I just wonder if I was 16 ,on my first ,could I attend ?

H0wt0kn0w Fri 22-Mar-19 07:58:03

Having read her response, she was just warning u the chat would be v baby related.

I read her response and i think she makes sense.

ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth Thu 21-Mar-19 18:18:05

@mollycoddle77 If you'd read page two of the thread you'd see the OP is aware and doesn't mind

DaphneFanshaw Thu 21-Mar-19 18:04:59

I don't think you have been unreasonable op, the whole thing is a bit daft.
I can't believe she is excluding people from a craft session because she thinks they are not as overwhelmed as her. grin

mollycoddle77 Thu 21-Mar-19 17:45:33

You've outed yourself though, don't know if anyone has pointed this out? 😀 found your comment on the fb page.

Watfrordmummy Thu 21-Mar-19 17:13:42

My only issue is that I was made to feel not welcome, and when people put themselves out there they need to be aware


TakemedowntoPotatoCity Thu 21-Mar-19 16:40:28

To be fair, she sounds quite a nice person if a little annoying. She should have chosen her response to you better though I agree, and you shouldn't have been made to feel excluded at all. In fact it's rather boring to just hang around with people all the same as you imo!Personally

DaphneFanshaw Thu 21-Mar-19 16:25:56

Bloody hell, her reply was a bit "skip to the end."
I wonder if her policy will change as her dc get older and she finds out that it is the same old shit, just a different age.

killpop Thu 21-Mar-19 15:09:36


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MorningsEleven Thu 21-Mar-19 15:04:15

Those biscuits are out of this world.

WhiteDust Thu 21-Mar-19 14:39:30

Haha!!! Brilliant biscuits! Who needs a class indeed!

WhiteDust Thu 21-Mar-19 14:38:34

I can only see 100% 5* * reviews.

None score less than 5.

Where is OP's review?

Watfrordmummy Thu 21-Mar-19 14:37:41

Who needs a class!!!smilegrin

Watfrordmummy Thu 21-Mar-19 13:37:49

I think I'm even more than I was last night!!

Completely missing the point!!!

MorningsEleven Thu 21-Mar-19 13:01:18

Oh jeezo, wait till their bairns really give them trouble. My eleven year old is as tall as me - I'm 5'7 - and her attitude is 28 feet high!

Namechangeforthiscancershit Thu 21-Mar-19 12:53:01

Overwhelm as a noun [shudders]

KrazyKatlady Thu 21-Mar-19 12:50:35

I'm disappointed she hasnt taken the time to explain the nature of the group clearly to Blessing James!!😂😂😂

ColeHawlins Thu 21-Mar-19 12:43:28

* Life was so easy then. So straightforward. <sobs>*

Some oldies like us would probably be beneficial to dispel some myths of babydom being the hard part.
Or it would be a series of hollow laughs and mutterings of ‘just you wait’.


We could just sit there icing our biscuits, throwing out the odd dark allusion.

ColeHawlins Thu 21-Mar-19 12:41:24

Absolutely. The costume department is that way > grin

ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth Thu 21-Mar-19 12:39:15

big villain-blob called The Overwhelm

Can I play the role please? I'm quite big, being a mammoth.

O4FS Thu 21-Mar-19 12:37:47

I miss that naivety. That life would be easier once the early years were navigated.

Life was so easy then. So straightforward. <sobs>

Some oldies like us would probably be beneficial to dispel some myths of babydom being the hard part.
Or it would be a series of hollow laughs and mutterings of ‘just you wait’.

ColeHawlins Thu 21-Mar-19 12:20:27

I can't stop laughing at "children aged five and under as this is when the overwhelm for busy mums is so great".

The blithe assumption is adorable, really.

Bless her has she ever met a teenager?

Also, I now want to storyboard a horror film starring a big villain-blob called The Overwhelm.

ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth Thu 21-Mar-19 12:14:48

What does First Mummies even mean? She says it's about putting Mums First (her capitals). So why not call it that?

Namechangeforthiscancershit Thu 21-Mar-19 12:05:05

Her response is disingenuous anyway. If she was just giving you info about the demographic, why would she say that she'd accept your booking "this time"? Clearly she means that you wouldn't normally be accepted?

Namechangeforthiscancershit Thu 21-Mar-19 12:04:06

Even the name gives me rage! What does First Mummies even mean? Are they the first people ever to be mothers? Are they members of the American presidential family?

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