I have a wedding invite dilemma. Myself and my husband have been invited to an out of town wedding which we would need to stay for 2 nights. I really value the friend but the invitation clearly says they can’t cater for children. I 100% respect this but my daughter will have just turned 2 and I have no childcare options for longer than the odd couple of hours.
I have considered me rsvp’ing yes and my husband declining so that he could look after our little one at home but mytoddler is very difficult and I have only ever been out once in the evening since she was born whereby she didn’t see me and my husband put her to bed. She cried for 2 hours prior to bed time and it took him 3 hours to settle her after bed. (If I was home she would have been happy for him to put her to bed) so I feel like it would be a bit unfair on both my little one and my husband to do this. The other thing we have thought of is possible them both coming away with me and staying in a hotel nearby with me popping out to settle her in the evening. But then he’d literally be dropping me at the church, driving me to the reception after the church and me getting a taxi to his hotel which would be a bit of a faff and not very relaxing/enjoyable for either of us. Plus awkward when people ask “where’s your husband” and I say “in a hotel 5 mins away”.
I guess my question is should I just RSVP saying I can’t go? Or would that be bad form? I would be sad to miss it but I guess sometimes being a mum means missing out on things. As a side note I think that me not going would be talked about in our friendship group and seen as me not putting the effort in.
I genuinely don’t know so all thoughts appreciated!
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Wingingitwell · 09/02/2019 14:27
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