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EyebagsOnLegs Tue 15-Jan-19 17:01:26

Over the years my dad has very kindly bought me and my sisters a variety of designer shoes and handbags. He finds good deals on eBay and thinks of us which is very sweet and I’m incredibly grateful for the thought.

They’re ducking hideous, all of them. Plus not only do I not go anywhere that would necessitate heels and a nice handbag, I’m actually disabled and couldn’t wear them if I did want to. He knows this.

They’re taking up so much room from being banished to the loft, wardrobe, under the bed etc. OH says if I don’t want them I should bin or donate them but that seems unfair. What would you do?

Adding that I love him dearly and I’m his carer, this could stem from when my mum unfairly took us from him in our teens

Drogonssmile Wed 16-Jan-19 17:50:35

My Dad often gets something very nice but completely not me. He and my mum split up when I was two so he doesn't know me that well ie he's never lived with me. I usually eBay and get something really nice that I want with the money.

Wavescrashingonthebeach Wed 16-Jan-19 20:21:55

Im a massive fan of regifting smile

And just give stuff to charity, if you dont need the money then id donate rather than sell..if its pretty fancy stuff they can auction at events rather than charity shop etc.

Your doing no one whatsover any favours guiltily keeping items lurk gathering dust

Wavescrashingonthebeach Wed 16-Jan-19 20:22:29



God im tired

missymayhemsmum Wed 16-Jan-19 21:52:16

If he's bored, could he volunteer ebay selling for charity?

mammmamia Wed 16-Jan-19 21:58:35

OP try LoveLuxe. They buy and resell designer things.
Or how about Shpock? I’ve sold a lot of stuff on that. I really would try both of these.

April2020mom Wed 16-Jan-19 22:29:22

Cookie cutters. I got a broken low quality set for Christmas 2017. I donated them to church and purchased a new set last summer for the kids to use. I always tell family members that any regifted presents must be thoughtful and wanted. Same goes for friends.

feska5 Wed 16-Jan-19 22:34:56

If you Ebay them just hope your dad doesn’t bid on them!

Jackyjill6 Thu 17-Jan-19 06:58:25

Why would you donate something broken?

Namechangedforthis79 Thu 17-Jan-19 07:05:50

If you just want rid of them, give them to charity. Instead of feeling guilty that you're giving away something your dad got you, think of the joy that those items that you don't even like will bring someone who finds it in the charity shop, and the good that the money raised will do to help others. I donate all my stuff to a little independent charity shop who do amazing work and the relief I feel at mentally letting go of this stuff is worth way more than the few £s I would have got for it if I had spent loads of time trying to sell it. Give it away one or two at a time if you prefer? See how you feel about it. You might find it weirdly exhilirating. If it's likely to be valuable make sure to tell the volunteers what it is though smile

Adversecamber22 Thu 17-Jan-19 09:04:29

Just keep one bag for sentimental purposes. If your not short of money yourself just give everything to charity. If your not flush then try a dress agency, I used to sell loads of my things this way. They take them, give you a price and then give you money once sold.

OVienna Thu 17-Jan-19 12:22:28

If there are no certificates, is it likely the bags are knockoffs? If you alerted him to this risk, would he stop?

EyebagsOnLegs Wed 23-Jan-19 01:10:36

I sent him a message saying that I can’t wear or store them a few days ago and he’s not replied. He’s replied to my sisters. I can’t go over due to illness.

SpringForEver Wed 23-Jan-19 02:28:21

You could sell them on Ebay, and block his buying id so he can't buy them back.

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