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What’s the one thing you have done that you never thought you would?

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread Thu 06-Dec-18 22:06:18

Mine is quite lame but, I don’t like heights and had to attend one of those work get to know you days at it was at Centre parcs and I had to jump off of various far too high woodland obstacles.

I loved it! I’m old and can’t believe I left it so late to fling myself off high obstacles.

I now want to do a parachute jump. 30 year old me would never do it grin

Riotingbananas Fri 07-Dec-18 16:02:32

Seen the Northern lights. It's been my dream forever, and this year it came true. Staggeringly wonderful.

BearSoFair Fri 07-Dec-18 16:07:13

Had children. I was always adamant I would never want kids, even a year before DS1 I couldn't imagine myself ever being a have 3 and I can't imagine not having them!

SneezesBreezes Fri 07-Dec-18 16:10:47

Pretty shocking but after I split up with ex, I escorted for a few months to save up for a deposit on a flat before I could return to university to finish my degree.

I'm so ashamed but as I was studying far from my mum, who unfortuantely couldn't help me financially, I just had to do it.

Moominfan Fri 07-Dec-18 16:11:22

Hidingtonothing that's an amazing achievement, you've done it once, so you know you can do it's

Moominfan Fri 07-Dec-18 16:13:01

Learned to drive, took my test three times.

Quit smoking

Quit alcohol

Climbed three biggest mountains in uk in 24hours

Hidingtonothing Fri 07-Dec-18 16:18:06

I do know I can. I can see so clearly how this happened and what I need to do to fix it, just having trouble actually putting it into practice. I'm starting to talk about it though, admit there's a problem so I'm probably heading in the right direction. Thanks for the support, it's appreciated flowers

1400spincycle Fri 07-Dec-18 16:18:24

Joined a Spice Girls tribute act.

Hidingtonothing Fri 07-Dec-18 16:19:20

And your list is amazing, well done! smile

Hidingtonothing Fri 07-Dec-18 16:20:08

Really 1400?! That must be so much fun smile

Ambernectarine Fri 07-Dec-18 16:24:27

Go on Countdown and win a teapot

Touch Peter Andre's hand.

Get bitten by both a zebra and a llama.

Feature in a gay porn film (fully clad).

What can I say? Sometimes you just have to dare to dream.

Rudgie47 Fri 07-Dec-18 16:24:29

@SneezesBreezes, don't be ashamed in life you sometimes just have to do what you think is for the best at the time.
Forget it.

Ambernectarine Fri 07-Dec-18 16:26:41

And, of course, be quoted in the Daily Mail, talking about crotchless bodystockings on here.

Almost checked off my bucket list at 33.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer Fri 07-Dec-18 16:31:16

Home educated my kids.
It was just never even on my radar, until school just really wasn’t working for ds2. We’re now on our third year and just really happy (ds1 also joined us at home for a year, passed his exams, and is now at college).

Scottishscummy Fri 07-Dec-18 16:33:55

I've never really done anything. I didn't expect to do nothing so I suppose I have to say that!

kateandme Fri 07-Dec-18 16:46:29


on a llighter note.a ride called vertigo at a welsh theme park
got scouted.
coast walk
cooked proper meals including a roast
buried a friend.
save someones life by holding a wound
too many more its depressing to think about never mind put down

kateandme Fri 07-Dec-18 16:50:27

SneezesBreezes don't be did a really brave thing to get to where you are today.shows a lot of strength,grit and determination if you ask me.and you also managed to stop right? that's a real positive as many get plunged into dark path with it.
could you have done it any differently at the time?obviously not so its your path and your past now.

TurquoiseWeekend Fri 07-Dec-18 16:53:32

Have a baby... almost!
I've had losses and many years of trying with no luck and I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant and praying it carries on going as well as it is so that I can be a mum in 12 weeks time!

2018SoFarSoGreat Fri 07-Dec-18 17:12:45

@Hidingtonothing you're on the road already, just by talking about it. You can do this. You have done this. Sending you strength and support and flowers

Moved to USA. I was one of the only ones in my circle who had no interest whatsoever in moving from home.

LOVE being a grandparent. I also swore I did not need any grandchildren, not necessary thank you. Yep, I'm THAT grandparent. Besotted.

Jumped off a boat (okay, slowly descended into the very deep water) in the open water. I always thought it looked amazing, but I would never be able to do it. It was amazing. And so liberating.

Great thread, OP

Treats Fri 07-Dec-18 17:16:30

Stand for Parliament

kateandme Fri 07-Dec-18 17:18:10

well done turquoiseweekend here to you coming back in 12 and letting us no of ur new born!:D

Poppyfr33 Fri 07-Dec-18 17:20:36

Took a gap year at age 55, giving up job to travel around Australia living in a tent.

Sweetpea55 Fri 07-Dec-18 17:21:08

Flew to Oklahoma and went Storm Chasing

Plaiceholder Fri 07-Dec-18 17:23:40

Join the SNP.

ArabellaUmbrella Fri 07-Dec-18 17:31:33

Held a burrower owl, picked up and held a bantam chicken. That may sound rather rubbish but I've had a huge phobia of birds for years and have worked hard to overcome it.

NopeNi Fri 07-Dec-18 17:32:04

Cheesily enough, falling in love and having him love me back was the big surprise to me. The rest is just stuff I've had to get through, but I never thought love was possible (or real) until it happened.

GoblinsAndGhouls Fri 07-Dec-18 17:36:50

I play bass in a punk band. Always loved punk but was bullied and manipulated out of it by my mother because it wasn't for nice, middle class girls and was bullied out of playing bass because it wasn't for any sort of girl.

I'm in my 40s and now I gig most weekends.

Punk as Fuck grin

Otterses Fri 07-Dec-18 17:39:38

Do a degree grin

My student finance is sorted, and I start in February.

afrikat Fri 07-Dec-18 17:47:26

Started eating meat again after 22 years as a vegetarian

SecretWitch Fri 07-Dec-18 17:49:57

earned an advanced degree
Became Director of Counseling Services at a feminist health care clinic
Got married twice
Had my last baby at 42

MsLexic Fri 07-Dec-18 17:51:27

Just all the things I have taught myself. The internet has helped me learn.

Grumpbum123 Fri 07-Dec-18 17:52:35

Attempted suicide and spent time in a psych unit

Omunye Fri 07-Dec-18 17:57:32

Married a white man.

Workreturner Fri 07-Dec-18 18:00:49


Pretty sure I know you!

Workreturner Fri 07-Dec-18 18:01:26


What tempted you??!!

RaspberryRipple1963 Fri 07-Dec-18 18:06:20

Went away on a little holiday by myself,a few weeks ago. I wanted to see a couple of tribute bands for my favourite group,but they were playing in a town about 150 miles away from where I live. I plucked up the courage to book a hotel for 3 nights,bought the gig tickets and coach journey tickets,and went all by myself. I never thought that I would have had the courage to do it. But I did,and I'm so glad that I did. I thoroughly enjoyed myself,and am planning to do it again in the spring next year.

KismetHardie Fri 07-Dec-18 18:07:51

@LucyMorningStar you were very young, and as you say you were groomed. There's power in recognising that you did make choices there and you are very different now, but you can also forgive yourself

Cuppaqueen Fri 07-Dec-18 18:13:21

Get married and have a baby. The teenage/20s me would be horrified grin

bellalou1234 Fri 07-Dec-18 18:19:44

Got a degree at 37 and now working as a nurse. It had always been a dream that I thought I couodnt achieve..

thenewaveragebear1983 Fri 07-Dec-18 19:08:32

Gave up smoking

Running looooong distances (20+ Km )

IamPickleRick Fri 07-Dec-18 19:12:54

- Have a central London job with a very famous employer.
- Abseil down the Hayward Gallery on the south bank.
- See as many bands as I have.
- Have children.
- be a good mum.
- Travel to America.
- vote Labour (family are staunch conservatives)
- Go deaf
- overcome my childhood

spiderlight Fri 07-Dec-18 19:23:48

Went paintballing. Not my sort of thing AT ALL but a friend got Groupon Fever and bought tickets and dragged me a long in the freezing cold and ankle-deep mud and I don't think I've ever laughed so much in my life!

BlimeyCalmDown Fri 07-Dec-18 19:32:16

Graduated in my 40's from a good uni

Passed my driving test in 40's (although still not got a car 6yrs later...)

To get out of debt

Keep becoming single after long term relationships

Racmactac Fri 07-Dec-18 22:10:26

Set up my own business.

Have a great group of friends. I was always a bit of a loaner

SuperSange Fri 07-Dec-18 22:46:43

Ran a marathon! 💗💗

Bloodybridget Sat 08-Dec-18 00:27:28

@afrikat I became omniverous again after 37 years vegetarian!

SteveBrule Sat 08-Dec-18 00:30:28

Well done @DailyMailDontStealMyThread, I'm scared of heights too and last year jumped out of a plane. I was 51 at the time so there's lots of time for you to build up the courage.

Ollivander84 Sat 08-Dec-18 00:47:49

Found a new job after a decade in my old one
Went through emergency spinal surgery (5hr op) and recovery alone
Started modelling and got published

morethanaword Sat 08-Dec-18 02:01:51

Probably blaming my son for eating all the cookies in the house, woops!

shazkiwi Sat 08-Dec-18 02:26:40

I went on holiday & wound up emigrating to the UK

PollyFlinderz Sat 08-Dec-18 03:30:57

Separated from my husband after 38 years together. It took me 4 years to pluck up the courage.

Started travelling alone and on my travels I’ve faced my fear of ......

heights by going on the worlds tallest zip wire.

Faced my fear of sea snakes by jumping off a boat 4kms out in the ocean to swim with whale sharks. I’ll never forget it.

Went on scary rollercoasters.

Have developed a love of camping in the desert and by the sea with my children and grandchildren after trying it once years ago and hating it. It just clicked with me about 3 years ago and I now want to go every few weeks during our winter.

I’ve also discovered I’m quite a good desert driver and instead of hanging on to the Jesus bar In terror I now hang on to the steering wheel and enjoy every minute. Next year I’m planning on joining a group of women I’ve never met before to do an all female desert crossing lasting a few days.

I’ve really surprised myself of late.

kateandme Sat 08-Dec-18 03:49:21

this is a great should be kept in the volt and then someone if anyone still here bring it out in years time to see if we have all done more.

FiveShelties Sat 08-Dec-18 04:20:11

shazkiwi I went on holiday and emigrated to NZ!😃

Graphista Sat 08-Dec-18 04:45:11

Op - I'm terrified of heights so I'm in awe I could not do that!

Have a baby - 2 mc inc once very complex, endo Dx, multiple surgeries, other health issues impacting fertility... I really did think it was impossible at one point. Dds pregnancy was medically complex & high risk, we both almost died during the birth due to a rare condition and I was "strongly advised" to not risk another pregnancy. So dd is an only, never thought I'd stick at one but no choice really.

Raise a child alone. I did it all "right" but ex cheated and got OW pregnant. Didn't think I'd still be single 16 years later. I've dated but I haven't met anyone good enough to give up the single life for and inflict on dd.

Get my 2nd degree. Ex also thought I was too thick even though I already had my 1st degree but he said that wasn't a proper degree (nursing) twat! He has 4 GCSEs and he scraped them!

Darumafan thanks

"Wrote a book" I so want to do this, have several started, have had short stories published, have even had various lecturers inc one who was a publisher tell me I have the ability and to get on with it - the only thing stopping me is me! Argh!

On the really down side

Became disabled in my 30's - car accident, not something anyone expects I don't think

Had a breakdown - in hindsight should have predicted this. MH hcps hear my story and wonder how the fuck I didn't have one much sooner!

vampirethriller Sat 08-Dec-18 09:29:35

Had a baby! After 10 miscarriages. She's on my knee now and I still can't quite believe she's mine.

hobnobsaremyfave Sat 08-Dec-18 09:40:06

Ran a half marathon
Never again though grin

afrikat Sat 08-Dec-18 11:56:16

workreturner I have a bunch of health issues and eating a 'clean' plant based diet just didn't seem to be helping so decided to try something totally different. It seems to be helping so far and I'm also losing weight as I don't need to eat as much.. meat is much more filling for me!

canteatcustard Sat 08-Dec-18 12:21:29

Get my degrees.
Have four children, after miscarriage, lots of medical complications with two of them.
on BBC breakfast
on Sky news live
in a documentary
in national magazine
interviewed on radio, being asked questions from people calling in
Save my sons life 7 times
help him save his own on 8 time

be on of the group of people who went to house of commons to lobby MPs

Have confidence to ask for correct medical care in A and E for my son.

won an award, after my son and hubby voted for me.

care for my nieces , give emergency medication, use my pead first aid skills to keep them alive. (different condition to son)

Support my sister when her daughter died.

support my sister when her other daughter nearly died and was expected to die. < she lived! smile !>

this year, jumping off a boat, swim to island in to hot pool.
climb up a volcano

go to my sons graduations for his 2 degrees, ( my daughters next year as well!)

all above not written in order of priority, but off the top of my head.

ArabellaUmbrella Sat 08-Dec-18 14:24:26

@vampirethriller that is so lovely! Congratulations thanks

Toughtips Sat 08-Dec-18 14:31:18

Go back to work full time earning myself a decent wage. Will enable me to pay off my debt by spring and provide financial security fir my family. Woohoo

elfycat Sat 08-Dec-18 14:32:21

Got a degree, I was mid-40s, now on a masters.

Stopped being so fucking polite to everyone. Sometimes it's OK to be blunt and say no, without trying to minimise the other person's hurt feelings. I wish I'd learned this years ago. I'm not rude, just firm and no apologies given none of that 'sorry but' Thanks to MN for the 'no is a complete sentence' attitude - it really is.

MsTSwift Sat 08-Dec-18 14:56:21

Started my own business been going 5 years now

morningconstitutional2017 Sun 09-Dec-18 16:18:16

I learned to drive in my mid-fifties, something which I thought I would never do. Parents and siblings didn't drive. It was something only other people did.
It's wonderful not having to hang around at a bus stop in the pouring rain.

Millie2013 Sun 09-Dec-18 16:23:10

Engage in 7 years of psychoanalysis. I thought I was destined to be depressed and non functional forever.
It meant a huge financial sacrifice, but I don’t regret a penny of it

Myhousetoday Sun 09-Dec-18 16:35:48

I too definitely never dreamed I'd acquire a new nationality.

But the other: as a teen never dreamt I'd one day 10 years later work at the world-famous archaeological site that I was studying in my textbook.

dorisdog Sun 09-Dec-18 20:53:01

Getting paid actual money to write several articles! Not enough to give up the day job yet, unfortunately...

BestestBrownies Sun 09-Dec-18 22:52:17

- Prioritised myself without feeling guilty or selfish anymore
- Summoned the courage to leave my abusive exH despite being at rock bottom emotionally
- Moved to a foreign country alone for work
- Realised I have a natural aptitude for learning languages
- Learned to ski and scuba dive and LOVE both
- Met a decent man who I trust more than I've ever trusted anyone
- Finally got onto the property ladder
- Have savings in the bank and a secure financial future

All of these things I have achieved in the last 6 years (not necessarily in that order). Reading that back, I realise I should be proud of myself and my achievements, but all I can focus on is what still needs work

dustarr73 Mon 10-Dec-18 13:55:21

mirren3 Ah thats lovely

BoffinMum Mon 10-Dec-18 15:20:06

Someone said to me that women tended to look at criteria for jobs, scholarships and awards and if they didn’t fulfil all of them, most tended not to apply. Men, on the other hand, tended to apply even if they met a tiny handful of criteria. The result was more men won these things. I suddenly had a massive revelation, realised what I had been doing wrong all my life by effectively volunteering to step aside for men, and applied for a prestigious research council studentship at Oxbridge, winning it hands down. This was followed by other awards and prizes, book deals and so on. I’ve spent 20 years in university research now and have a great job in a top university. The moral is to apply for everything you like, because if you don’t, someone else will.

VanGoghsDog Mon 10-Dec-18 15:38:47

Do a law degree in my mid 40's and get a first. I only got 4, pretty lame, O levels at school.

ACurlyWurly Mon 10-Dec-18 15:47:00

conquered my 40 year fear of water and went scuba diving!


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