My son is 6 (just gone into Y2). He is a bright kid, does well at school and his teachers say he is popular with the other children. I’m obviously a bit biased, but he is good company, chatty, funny, kind (mostly!) and affectionate. He’s lovely with younger children and older kids like him too.
The ‘problem’ is that he doesn’t want to do ANYTHING other than be at home with us. He’s tried activities, usually at his own request, but then he will refuse to go back.
I feel sad for him that he’s missing out on a lot of fun and friendships - my older DC suffered with shyness too but have enjoyed a few different clubs and activities and were more independent than he is when they were in reception!
There’s no reason that I can see for him to be like this. He went to nursery three full days a week and loved it, he settled into school fine, no problems at the childminder. He has spent some short periods with grandparents/family friends without me or his dad and been fine. We are divorced but live close, share parenting 50/50 and often chat about this and ways we could help him.
One thing I have noticed is he seems to have really low self esteem, he’ll say ‘I can’t do that’ before he’s tried, or ‘I’m stupid!’ if he isn’t instantly brilliant at something. I don’t know where he gets that from :(
We offer him loads of reassurance and encouragement and I thought he’d grow out of it, but no sign of that so far.
Am I just being unrealistic about six year olds? I feel like I’m totally fucking it up and I didn’t realise until I wrote this post how sad I feel about it.
I’d really appreciate any advice, or suggestions for activities that might be an ‘easy win’. A solitary hobby even, just something to boost him. He’s got good coordination etc so it’s not that, although he’s not keen on sport so far. He likes playing ball with us but wouldn’t kick a ball around by himself.
I wasn’t expecting to write so much! I guess it’s really bothering me.
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6yo lacking confidence and missing out on fun :(
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NotplumAlan · 08/09/2018 19:26
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