I'm having CBT for anxiety, depression and possibly PTSD and my mum is so nosy! She is forever asking me how it was, what happens, what do I talk about etc. Now this is fine except for the what do I talk about.
If I try to avoid the question or answer in general terms she asks what I'm hiding or why so don't want to tell her. She uses the But I'm your mum guilt trip and is hurt when I don't want to tell her.
I have explained some of what I'm doing as it's CBT so quite a practical therapy but some stuff I talk to my therapist about is intensely private and there are secrets I don't ever want her to know.
She means well but doesn't believe in depression and is getting very curious as to why CBT for anxiety is taking so long. I don't want to upset her as she is trying to help in her own way but just can't comprehend that the constant prying isn't helpful and then I'm the bad guy when I snap at her. I live with her so struggle to just avoid the topic.
Well for future you know to not tell her anything remotely important. She can't keep her beak out so there you go.
Current situation - you could say the therapist has indicated that you need to funnel through them and no one else, could impact on the effectiveness so please stop asking, it is unreasonable and rather unkind for you to carry on probing. Reduce seeing her, reduce opportunity for grilling. If she grumbles, tough.
Could you just tell her to stop being so nosey? In a half joking way? I did that with my DM once and it worked, shes a pryer. I just said "oh fgs stop being so bloody nosey!" Half exasperated and joking it did work for me.
Even when you were a teen, you didn't 'have' to tell her everything -even if that's what she led you to believe-.
I'm quite blunt so I'd be just telling her it was private straight off. If she pushed it, she'd get an earful .
But you're not me and this might not be the right time for you to start setting firm boundaries. Just tell her your therapist has told you you shouldn't discuss what you talk about your therapy sessions with anyone. Then in future, "Oh mum, you know my therapist has told me not to discuss it."
Sounds like she might be worried you are discussing her! The whole point of therapy is a safe space to say whatever you need to. I would be polite initially, but then get quite firm. She isn't worrying about upsetting or offending you, so I wouldn't worry about her.