My child will soon be starting final year of primary school. We live very rurally and she doesn't go to our local village school as I wanted her nearer my place of work in case of emergencies. We did a placing request and she got in right away without having to even start at the village school.
We have one neighbour for miles. Their child is going to our local secondary which is outstanding. The council would put on a school bus and my child and theirs would get this together. Behaviour from pupils is reported as exceptional and it's the best school within our LA for exam results. My child isn't really friends with the neighbour's child and they've only played out together once or twice in two years.
We could apply for the secondary linked with my child's current primary school and most definitely get in (no school is oversubscribed around here). This secondary is very good however doesn't offer as many opportunities such as extra curricular activities and trips as the outstanding one. There are some reports of bullying and disruptive children and exam results are very good but not AS good as our more local secondary. However, all of dd's friends (except one who she doesn't really play with) will be going to this secondary. She struggles socially and it's taken her a long time to find a group of people to play with at intervals and lunch. Due to the distance of where we live, she doesn't socialise with anybody outside of school (though does go to several clubs in the evenings which i collect her from after work).
So we'll soon be looking around the secondary schools to get a feel of the place. DD herself is in two minds about both schools but I think is leaning more towards the one her friends are starting at. I feel it's very important for her to start a new school already knowing people and having social support from primary friends than starting a school knowing nobody. I think that would ruin her confidence and she'd end up staying quiet and reserved and not initiating friendships her whol secondary life.
So pros and cons of both.
'Outstanding' school pros: best exam results in our LA, excellent behaviour of pupils and very strict anti-bullying policy, excellent range of opportunities, council would put on a school bus.
'Outstanding' school cons: Dd won't know anybody and may struggle socially throughout high school.
'Very good' school pros: very good exam results, good range of opportunities for students, pretty much all of dd's current class will be going here.
'Very good' school cons: some reports of bad behaviour, the council would not put on a school bus as it's not our nearest secondary meaning dd would need to navigate herself on two buses home herself each day which would mean her not getting home til 5.30pm (or she would just remain at after school care for a few more years which she wouldn't mind at all as she really enjoys it).
What would you encourage your child to go for in our situation?
(Moving home is not an option)
Thanks.
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Which secondary would you encourage your child to choose?
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TwoConsonantsAndAVowel · 11/08/2018 07:37
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