Dd is 9. She has a friend at school who is a lovely girl, but who always has nits.
For the last 18 months during term time dd is continually getting nits despite using nit repellent shampoo/spray, regular combing and endless stronger chemical nit treatments... now I know the source of the infestation is dds friend. Her hair is crawling with them.
I've tried hinting and telling the mum after playdates that my dd has nits so she needs to check her dds hair, mentioning after a sleepover that I noticed a few eggs when brushing her daughter's hair in the morning) the school sends regular letters asking parents to check for nits, etc.
Today they had a playdate, dd was itching again so I just check dds hair for her - this is when her friend mentioned hat her mum never checks her hair. Dd said that I check her every week to which her friend replied 'mummy doesn't have time to do mine, she used to in year 2 but she doesn't anymore' and shrugged.
Dd is fed up of nits, I'm fed up with the nits. How do I tell this woman to denit her child(ren) consistently?
Tell the mum that untreated nits will result in her DD eventually becoming anaemia as well as ostracised...
I would also tell the school that they are failing in their duty of care and you will report to social services. I am assuming that the girl is permanently infested with the blighters? Because that is neglect - different to just being crap at getting rid of them properly.
Wonder what happened after year 2? Sounds like her mum is too stressed/preoccupied and whether she needs some support/care rather than gripes about her neglectful parenting? The3’s sleepover idea sounds great - will solve the problem for you and support the mum and daughter too.