At book group the other night, conversation turned to the royal wedding, and one of our members said approvingly how lovely it was that someone from "a dusky background" was now part of the royal family. I said straight away that was an awful phrase, and most of the group did not agree. One said "But dusky is a lovely, evocative word!" We argued for a bit, then I shut up. What do you think?
(Which is not to say that the person who said it intended to be racist. There is still a hangover amongst a certain generation that it is rude to use terms like 'black'. My MIL insists that 'coloured' is still more polite than 'black', no matter how many times we explain. It is particularly tricky to convince her now that she has realised that 'person of colour' is considered acceptable; she can't see the difference).
I find all the “it’s so lovely a black woman is part of the Royal family” sayers a bit odd, makes it sound like the Royal Family are filling their diversity quota rather than Harry marrying the woman he loves (I appreciate it is historic but people just go on about it so much). Even worse are the people who comment they thought Harry would marry an “English Rose”.