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Nosey survey of MNers ... because I’m nosey.

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Undercoverbanana Sat 26-May-18 07:38:15

If you are about 50, are you a grandparent yet?

I am 50 and my Mum has commented that in her generation if you had children but weren’t a grandparent by 50 then people felt sorry for you. They thought you were missing out etc.

Just curious to see how people feel about it.

AtiaoftheJulii Sat 26-May-18 07:42:41

My mum was 48 when I had my eldest. She had no other children at home. I'm 47 and would be very surprised to become a grandmother next year! My kids are all younger than I was when I got pregnant. My youngest turns 18 the year I turn 50 - I'm hoping for a child-free gap before grandchildren, so I'd hope no-one felt sorry for me!

AlonsoTigerHeart Sat 26-May-18 07:45:55

My dad was 45 mum 39 when i made them grandparents

I sincerely hope I'm considerably older

qu1rky Sat 26-May-18 07:47:19

Nope, my kids are 15 and 11.
I'm hoping I'm not going to become one any time soon.

lifechangesforever Sat 26-May-18 08:03:09

Considering my child will be just turning 20 when I'm 50, I hope I don't have grandchildren then.

My mum became a grandma at 40 through my brother's first child who was born when he was 19.. same age as when my mum had him.

She has been nagging me for the last 5 years about having another grandchild though, she's 58 now.

Eminybob Sat 26-May-18 08:03:58

I’m only 38 but by the time I’m 50 my eldest will only be 16. I suppose it’s betibg the realms of possibility that I’m a grandmother at 50, but I bloody hope not.

Most people I know are having children later in life so grandparents are going to become older. Mil didn’t become a grandmother until she was 66.

Eminybob Sat 26-May-18 08:05:18

Betibg hmm was supposed to say not beyond.

Tortycat Sat 26-May-18 08:06:38

Ha ha my children will be 11 and 9 so very unlikely! Taken after my mum and had children when i was older, so she was mid 70s before she was a gran

Roystonv Sat 26-May-18 08:07:16

I'm 58, first grandchild due in July. Of my friends it's a mix some been gp for ages some still not.

Slartybartfast Sat 26-May-18 08:08:16

my kids are all students and ds who is 23 is in a long term relationship with another student

so no i woudnt be happy

i think times have changed.

annandale Sat 26-May-18 08:08:49

My grannies became grandmothers at 58 and 51, but that was in 1958 and 1961.

I know that it really struck my mum how much later women were having babies when I went to a school reunion - about 30 of us, all aged about 28, and only two had any children.

Ivegotfamilyandidrinkcupsoftea Sat 26-May-18 08:09:08

When i turn 50 my eldest will be 30, and other three all in their 20s. Id say its very likely.

moomoogalicious Sat 26-May-18 08:09:25

My kids will be between 13 and 18 so i hope not!

ipswichwitch Sat 26-May-18 08:09:26

Christ I hope I’m not a grandma by the time I’m 50 - the oldest will be 16 and his brother 14! Those people feeling sorry for people who aren’t a grandparent by the time they’re 50 seem to be of the school of thought that their children are obliged to provide them with grandchildren

CustardOmlet Sat 26-May-18 08:10:23

My grandparents and parents were all in their 50s when they became grandparents. My inlaws were in their 40s but they were young parents as well.

MirandaWest Sat 26-May-18 08:10:33

My parents were 54 and 55 when they became grandparents.

I may be one by the time I’m 50 as I’m 42 and my DSS is 23 in a steady relationship so there may be children there. My two are 14 and 12 so again may provide grandchildren by the time I’m 50 although probably not.

MirandaWest Sat 26-May-18 08:11:56

My granny was 61 and my nana 49 when I was born and they became grandparents.

Kraggle Sat 26-May-18 08:13:34

My parents became grandparents at 53/54 and that seems you to me!

Kraggle Sat 26-May-18 08:13:44


Slartybartfast Sat 26-May-18 08:14:12

my dm was 58 when she became a grandmother

HeyDolly Sat 26-May-18 08:15:01

I’m not 50 yet but my eldest will be 12 when I am. So no, I won’t be a grandparent.

Vanillamanilla1 Sat 26-May-18 08:15:42

I'm 43 and I'm a grandmother to a 14 month old

C0untDucku1a Sat 26-May-18 08:17:46

My mum was 50 when she was made a grandma.
I seriously hope i wont be as my children will be 18 and 16.

ChangingStates Sat 26-May-18 08:20:10

When I turn 50 my eldest will be 14 and my youngest 11 so I hope there'll be many more years after that before I'm a gran.

ProustianMadeleine Sat 26-May-18 08:20:55

My mum was 52 when I had my first child and not pleased about becoming a grandparent. I was an adult.

I could be a grandparent by the time I'm 45 because my children will be in their late 20's early 30's by then.

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