On three threads I’ve read today posters have tried to shut down conversation and make themselves appear superior by calling someone they disagree with ‘dear’. I’m sure those doing it think they sound funny/intelligent/witty but honestly, it just makes you sound like a twat.
Do people speak like this in real life or are the oh so hilarious put downs saved for MN? If you want to argue and debate then do but this patronising bollocks is awful.
niknac definitely not used to be friendly on here. I live somewhere where everyone is called duck (or even shag ) so I’m well used to over familiar terms of endearment donot has it - obnoxious was the word I was looking for.
Coming from a long line of Geordies I call people “pet”, but never in an attempt to patronise. It’s just a regional friendly term like duck, hen, love, my lover, pal, etc. I think “dear” is the usual word of choice for patronising, as in “Calm down, dear”. Paradoxically, it usually enrages them!
babdoc there’s a world of difference between calling some pet in general conversation and shutting down conversation with something like ‘better go and do some more research dear’. I just know the person typing it is chuckling at how witty they are doing it