My FIL is 90 and lives alone 100 miles from us. We are the nearest relatives. He has a few mobility issues but has a lovely cleaner who visits a few times a week and also does his shopping with him.
He has been unwell so my DH has gone down to see him. He is suffering shortness of breath but the doctors can find nothing wrong with him.
Going through what he needs food wise DH has told me he eats a lots of tinned soup and ready meals. Seems he eats a lot of processed foods.
What impact is this likely to be having on his health and what can we do to help remedy it? He is a poor cook at the best of times and his mobility makes it hard for him to stand or keep his balance so I also worry about his safety in the kitchen
He does not accept help easily so I am really unsure what, if anything, we can do.
I think as he will be unable to cook himself freshly cooked meals from scratch, I would not be concerned about this. He's eating, he's managing. Unless you're going to hire a Private chef there is little to be done.
To be honest, he's 90 and lives alone, so he's not doing badly on it.
If he's eating fruit as well I wouldn't be concerned. It maybe the cleaner if she already helps shop would be willing to do a few more hours and cook for him (and maybe her and/or a friend of his so he's got company) something like a roast dinner once a week.
When I was a nurse, a man of 108 was admitted. When asked about his diet he said he lived on a drink of milk, raw egg and whisky! The doctor said he advised adding a daily multivitamin with iron but to carry on as he wished.
To be honest of FIL was fine i wouldn't be worrying about what he ate. It is just that he seems to be feeling unwell and is worrying himself about it so i am trying to think of things that might help. His cleaner/helper was ill a few weeks back and i think it threw him as he didn't have his usual lifeline. If we can put some things in place he can fall back on it might help him not to worry so much.
I feel quite sure he is experiencing anxiety attacks but obviously i am not a doctor and i haven't even seen him. It just reminds me of the way i felt when i have had anxiety attacks in the past.