My partner has just told me to pack my bags and get out. I am not going, I have 3 kids and no where to go. This has made me realise I have no friends really as I can't think of anyone to call to help or anywhere I can go. I have just had to cuddle my youngest to sleep whilst reassuring the middle one I am not going anywhere. They are so scared as we don't usually argue (it's easier to just ignore him than engage but I bit this time)
I am fucked though. He has all the money and i have a huge overdraft. He has always paid the mortgage (although I am on it) and so thinks he has more right to stay here than me. His name is in everything.
Get your hands on any paperwork you can. Even if its just photos of bank or account details.
Get your kids birth certificates, passports, anything you have. Then pack a bag ready in case you dont go home for a night or two.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Citizens advice? Local womens shelter? Housing dept? Call tax credits to tell of a change of circumstances. If joint accounts, go into the bank and advice of marital split. Accounts will be frozen.take any cash out you need first, it will just stop him spending everything in there. Any joint overdrafts, get them frozen so he cant max out the o/d. ditto with joint credit cards.
Speak to a family solicitor. You should get free initial consultation.
Been there op. Its hard but get all your info together and get busy tomorrow. You should have a clearer picture tomorrow night. X