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SATS and surgery(18 Posts)
My dd is due to take her SATs soon.
We came from Scotland last year and she was very behind with work.
She is also Dyslexic but school will not have assessments done.
(the school is closing this summer and staff simply not interested).
I am due to have major surgery during her SATS week and will be 200 miles away. (the surgery has been delayed and cannot be rearranged)
she has been attending school late/ in tears most days since Xmas but again school are not terribly interested.
I have asked her teacher about all this and she says note will only be made re her SATS if the teacher thinks she is affected. I know she will be. (she is already unable to sleep re SATS / counting days on calendar etc. ) I have spoken to Senco (hopeless, considered so by most other parents too). The Head is only there 2 days a week and doesnt reply to emails. County not interested (school closing) and Govorners ditto. I know they are 'only SATS' but school is putting lots of pressure on and dd is already very upset, yet alone with my surgery too (i feel guilty but it cannot be re-scheduled)
Is there anything i can do? (long sorry but didnt want to drip feed)
Well i had surgery 3m ago and will be having it during SATS week but the teacher says she thinks dd will be 'unaffected'?
Do i have any input or is it all down to the teacher?
I think the school sound a bit mean in their approach. I don't think there is anything you can do about DD having to do the tests but the school sound quite uncaring about the situation. I'm a TA in year 6 and would definitely take a more caring approach
You could try the teacher again but they don't sound very helpful. Even if they applied for this for your DD she would still do the tests and her result would be the same.
Personally I would remind her the tests are more about the school than her, not mention or put any pressure on at home. Try some relaxing techniques, make sure she's sleeping and eating ok and remind her that in 3 weeks they will all be over and done with.
Why is she late? Why is she in tears? How do you know she's dyslexic? Can't you just show them the assessment that showed it?
TBH I wouldn't worry too much about SATS. I would focus on trying to behold her confidence and make her feel better about school.
What is the plan for secondary?
she is late because she wont: get out of bed/eat breakfast/get out of hte car/walk across the playground / let go of me/dad - she hates school. Dad and older sib dyslexic. Dd spells 'Dad' 'bab/dab/bad' etc.
Person who came out to assess ds and refer to Cahms came for home visit and said 'dd wont manage high school' so is going to do some assess and refer her too if needed. That person says 'school is hopeless'.
I dont know if i will even get her IN for SATS...
I would explain to your dd in no uncertain terms that in the great scheme of things SATs are completely irrelevant. I would say that how well she does is not a reflection on how clever she is or what she will achieve in life. I would explain that when people have big stuff going on in their lives (such as mummy having an operation or not being with your family) it is completely normal for people to be a bit worried and sad and this can make it difficult to concentrate. This might mean that they find their work or exams particularly tricky but this is completely normal and OK and she must worry about it at all. And you love her and everything will be fine. Repeat every time she looks wobbly.
Neolara yes, good ideas i have been following. thank you.x
TBH I really would not worry about SATS. (Ex teacher too!)
Can you access help for her anxiety?
Can person who did assessment advise school or offer tuition help?
What can school do to manage her anxiety?
Poor kid sounds stressed and stretched to the limit.
Family is important. Health is important. SATS? Not so much.
I told mine to try but at the end of the day no employer would give a shiny shit about SAT results. No. Don't worry. I didn't put it like that!!
School sounds rubbish.
Worth a meeting asking them to detail how they will support her specific issues?
I couldnt care less about SATS tbh.
I have told her they are to assess the school not her and I am proud of her for trying. Have arranged some surprise trampoline lessons.
School 'see no problems' and will not agree to a meeting.
Brick walls and heads come to mind.
I am glad she will go elsewhere this summer but the wheels will have to falls off there before help is given i suspect!
Ignore her SATs. They're only a guideline to help her next school assess her. They don't mean anything long-term.
Find her the help she needs to learn with dyslexia. We found our schools absolutely bloody useless when one of our children was diagnosed with dyslexia. They spent all their time making assessments and producing pieces of paper which said our child had dyslexia but when it came to proper help they did bugger all. We ended up paying for specialist tuition at Dyslexia Action (now defunct, sadly). Without that help our child would not be able to read or write now.
Also, see what you can do to help her with her anxiety. Support her. Tell her she's good no matter what. Let her take time off if she needs it, while you're ill.
I hope you find a way through this but for now take the pressure off. For everyone.
(I hope your surgery goes well, and you recover quickly.)
Thank you so much OnTheRise
trouble is i will be ill during SATS week.
Teacher took great exception to the timing of my Op so goodness knows what would happen if dd wont go in.
They simply dont care how unhappy she is. Its a great shame.
They won't agree to a meeting? WTAF?!
Put it in writing.
Follow complaints procedure.
No teacher should ever do anything other than put the welfare of the child first.
If she won't go in? Sod 'em. No really. I am all for decent assessment and pushin. Good attendance but this is the mental health and welfare of your child. Much more important.
Can you say you are home schooling?
Really sounds like she needs to decompress.
And I'm sorry. So sorry. She's lucky to have you. In the midst of thinking of your surgery you're still worrying about her and prioritising her needs. Shame the "professionals" can't do the same.
It's awful, OP. But if the school is closing I don't think there's much you--or they--can do for now.
I'd focus on getting her through your surgery with as little worry as possible and if that means she doesn't go in for her SATs, so what. And then I'd recover from surgery; and then I'd look into getting her the help she needs for her dyslexia and anxiety issues, and have them in place ready for the start of the new school year in September.
I hope all goes well.
Can you just home educate for the next few months? SATS aren’t worth much and it doesn’t sound like school is a positive experience. Concentrate on the transition to secondary and getting her help to manage her dyslexia.
The other thing i realise i should have mentioned is that the 'ASD teacher' who school called into screen ds (who has referred him to Cahms for full assessment despite the fact we already have a private dx for him that County wont pay attention to) has suggested she screeen dd. School wont pay so she is to do a home visit (she has been running a Barnardoes ASD advice course for parents and she thinks, from some of the things ive said about dd that she might be asd too).
She couldnt sleep last night. She came in with me eventually. She was very restless all night. Bad dreams about school. I've left her to sleep. Called school but hte PE teacher took my message (sec only in 9.30-2) Head not there (only 2 days a week) Senco has full teaching rota. It's pants!
Your poor DD. The school sound hopeless and if she's that distressed, she won't be learning anything anyway. I would remove her from school until the end of the year and home school instead, if possible
Your poor child but actually if she does really badly then that opens up doors for her support. The secondary school will get results and know she needs to be given support so about actually end grades, don't worry. More of a concern is if she can actually get in and sit them. My son managed (loads of needs, dyspraxia, dyslexia, asd) but then had a mahoosive meltdown thankfully in front of the county ed psych whose report helped in getting his indie special school placement. If she is so anxious then keep her at home.
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