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DS called police when left home alone

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Namehaschanged321 Mon 19-Feb-18 22:14:36

Had a call from DS(10) school late this morning to come collect him as he had a fever.
Later had to do school run collect DD(4) from the same school and other DS at 3pm. I made the decision to leave him at home to do the school run as he was still poorly. I left his mobile with him, and the school run usually takes a total of 20 minutes.
I came back slightly delayed as older DS was let out late. DS10 had panicked by this point and called the police from his mobile (I had been trying to call him to tell him I was running late but it was engaged (he must have been talking to police at the same time).
I spoke to the police call receiver and apologized, she was lovely and reassured me that DS had done the right thing.
About 30 mins later, 2 police officers arrived, had a look around (home a tip as just got back after half term and had been busy today) and asked DS to confirm what had happened.
The police officer has said that I wasn’t meant to leave under 12s by themselves (I had checked before on gov website and it’s not clear). I explained that I hadn’t wanted to leave him but was worried about him feeling worse because of the weather.
Anyway she said that she wasn’t going to take it further but that children’s services will be informed. Have been feeling very anxious since then and wanted to know if anyone had any experience of this,
What exactly will Children’s services do? And what do I need to expect?
(Name changed).

LewisFan Mon 19-Feb-18 22:17:12

Highly likely they'll read it and laugh... a 10yo alone for 30min? Wouldn't reach my threshold for a safeguarding issue and I work for CS!

Ivymaud Mon 19-Feb-18 22:18:17

'Not meant to leave under 12s?' Are you sure as that's simply not true.

CantSleepClownsWillEatMe Mon 19-Feb-18 22:18:52

I wouldn't panic, I can't imagine they'll be too concerned.

What on earth possessed him to call the police though?

FootFlapperage Mon 19-Feb-18 22:18:59

Honestly they'll be fine. You'll probably get a letter in the post saying they'll be popping round for a chat & when they see all is fine that'll be the last you see of them flowers

TeaBelle Mon 19-Feb-18 22:19:18

You'll Probably get a letter with a link to nspcc guidance about making sure children are emotionally prepared for being home alone

Namehaschanged321 Mon 19-Feb-18 22:19:40

Thanks Lewis, feel a bit better after your post.
Ivy - i tried to tell her but she wasn’t having any of it.

TheLovelyHorse Mon 19-Feb-18 22:20:09

Really? Do you live in Trumpton?

NewYearNiki Mon 19-Feb-18 22:20:10

Didnt you tell him to call you if worried.

ViceAdmiralAmilynHoldo Mon 19-Feb-18 22:20:56

There's no law about what age you can leave children alone but it has to be reasonable, or some such.

Children's services may call, visit, or call to arrange a visit. You have nothing to worry about (if this is the only thing going on). They have real problems to deal with, not things like this.

Once your son is better I'd have a very calm word (and very much nothing like a telling off) with him about how easily you can get delayed, etc, and it doesn't mean anything is wrong. Just explain a few scenarios.


Afreshcuppateaplease Mon 19-Feb-18 22:21:08

I have started leaving my 10 year old for 20-30 mins op, i think its normal at this age!

Namehaschanged321 Mon 19-Feb-18 22:21:48

Can’t sleep - I have no idea, was bewildered to find out he had. He said he had dozed off, I’m thinking he woke up in some sort of time warp, and felt like I had been away for ages?!

MyDcAreMarvel Mon 19-Feb-18 22:22:17

Wasn't the best idea to leave a sick child alone, but can understand if you were stressed you didn't think that through.
Under normal circumstances of course ten was fine.
Why did your ds call the police dies he gave SN?

MyDcAreMarvel Mon 19-Feb-18 22:22:28

Sorry does he have.

MissEliza Mon 19-Feb-18 22:22:31

It's a bit worrying that the police don't know the rules, which are ridiculously vague.

Mishappening Mon 19-Feb-18 22:23:08

I shouldn't let it worry you too much. The SSD have bigger fish to fry.

gaggiagirl Mon 19-Feb-18 22:23:29

Why didn't he call you before calling the police? Does he have form for this?

MyDcAreMarvel Mon 19-Feb-18 22:23:32

Sorry cross post.

Namehaschanged321 Mon 19-Feb-18 22:23:47

He knows to call me, but he couldn’t get through apparently - which is very likely, as children’s school road has poor reception

TheLovelyHorse Mon 19-Feb-18 22:25:19

Your ten year old dialled 999? Seriously, that's quite worrying, given that he knew you'd be back from the school run shortly. And didn't ring you first. Or his dad.

Namehaschanged321 Mon 19-Feb-18 22:25:34

No Diagnosed SN - but I suspected possible ADHD a few years ago, which health specialists said a no-no to.

biscuitmillionaire Mon 19-Feb-18 22:26:10

How can it be wrong to leave a 10 year old alone for 30 minutes, when at my DC's primary school, children are allowed to walk home alone from Year 5 if parents want them to?

InaConfusedState Mon 19-Feb-18 22:26:22

Why did he call the police rather than you? Did he try you first?

I’d talk to him about what to do if he gets worried at home on his own. First thing being to contact you on your mobile.

ineedamoreadultieradult Mon 19-Feb-18 22:26:24

I would be explaining to DS the rules about staying home alone. To go straight to calling the police is not appropriate. Did he not try to call you first? I think this would be an indicator that your 10 year old is not mature enough to stay home alone yet.

Namehaschanged321 Mon 19-Feb-18 22:26:26

Dad was on way home from work so on underground, no reception.

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