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Do you let your teens hang round in parks at night?

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kyrenialady Mon 19-Feb-18 18:40:29

Dd has just turned 16 and of course she wants free reign. She doesn’t have a curfew as such if she wants to go to a friends or the cinema she can stay out to what ever time.

However her friends like to sit in the park at night and I am just not keen.

What do others do?

Paie Mon 19-Feb-18 18:43:40

Been there, done that.
More of a case of just wanting to escape adults for a bit but not going to lie, we did smoke/drink but you can't assume your DD will be the same

kyrenialady Mon 19-Feb-18 18:46:17

I know it’s a right of passage, at 16 me and my friends didn’t tend to roam we used to be able to get into the pubs. Much easier then I guess.

PoptartPoptart Mon 19-Feb-18 18:50:54

Yep, been there done that.
It was a case of not having anywhere else to hang out.
We didn’t want to be at someone’s house because parents were at home and too young for pubs.
We did smoke/drink/muck about with boys. I think it’s kinda normal experimentation for that age group isn’t it?

carbuncleonapigsposterior Mon 19-Feb-18 18:52:41

Yes I'm afraid it's a rite of passage around 16, just another phase in the dreary teenage years, too old for childhood and too young to enter the adult world, it passes usually when they are old enough for the pub.

kyrenialady Mon 19-Feb-18 18:53:18

Yes your right poptart a difficult age I guess.

upsideup Mon 19-Feb-18 18:53:51

What are you not keen about?

teaandtoast Mon 19-Feb-18 18:55:24

Mine didn't want to. The plus side of gaming. wink

LexiGray Mon 19-Feb-18 19:03:48

I would be worried that they were more likely to be exposed to drug taking.

kyrenialady Mon 19-Feb-18 19:04:26

Not sure really we don’t live in the safest of areas.

RunRabbitRunRabbit Mon 19-Feb-18 19:08:46

I never did and I don't let my DC.

The people who hang round in parks at night round here are not people I want mine hanging out with. Maybe it is different in other places.

Purplerain101 Mon 19-Feb-18 19:11:22

I did it all the time at that sort of age and we would smoke, drink and snog boys. Guess it’s just a phase that a lot of teens go through when they are in that awkward transitional period between childhood and adulthood. If you don’t live in the safest of areas could you compromise and tell her you’ll meet her somewhere near the park to walk home with her at a certain time?

kyrenialady Mon 19-Feb-18 19:15:17

Good idea purplerain. I will be a lot more relaxed come the lighter evenings.

She is sulking at the moment as her besties are in the local park. Our park has been in the news loads with antisocial behaviour and drug dealing. Roll on her 18th. Then I have this all to go through again with dd2 shock

bubblegumble Mon 19-Feb-18 19:17:03

I did the same during the summer when I was that age. (I'm 24 now).

But we didn't drink or smoke, it just purely to socialise.

I didn't do the whole getting drunk often thing at that age, and I've never done any drugs. But that's just because it doesn't appeal to me and I would rather not - I like to be in control of myself.

I don't think I'd be very comfortable with my children doing though, because things aren't as safe as they were even 8 years ago!

SquirmOfEels Mon 19-Feb-18 19:25:57

I think once they're 16 you can't really prevent them.

Mine seem to see it as a summer time activity, and I do feel better when it's light for longer. I worry most about interactions with other packs of marauding teens.

furlinedsheepskinjacket Mon 19-Feb-18 19:28:24

noooooo
mine never did or wanted to

thankfully smile

TheyBuiltThePyramids Mon 19-Feb-18 19:33:27

No - I was never allowed and wouldn't let my dd - especially not whilst it;s still dark. Mind you I had a PT job at 16 and between that and homework and youth club etc, I didn't have a lot of time for hanging about.

kyrenialady Mon 19-Feb-18 19:39:09

Same I was working full time at aged 16 last thing I wanted to do was sit in a local park.

SundaysFunday Mon 19-Feb-18 19:41:34

The teens who hang out at our local park after dark smoke weed and drink, I wouldn't be allowing my teens to join them, thankfully they don't want to anyway.

titchy Mon 19-Feb-18 19:43:59

Seriously just say no. hmm Why would you even entertain this? She'll be smoking weed, getting pissed and it'll be a lot more than just snogging boys...

orangetriangle Mon 19-Feb-18 19:44:11

absolutely not . though my sons a gamer so wouldnt want to. my daughter at that age never asked but would have known the answer.kids who hang around parks bored can and do often get into trouble.

Strawberrylaceaddict Mon 19-Feb-18 19:44:39

I wanted to but Mum never agreed to it. if I was going somewhere I didn’t have to be home at a certain time, but ‘walking the streets’ was a big no. Although I still did, I didn’t really drink, although it was offered, still barely touch it now. Do smoke however and have done from quite young - parents were massively against it but not drinking. This was 15 years ago and in 6 years, maybe even sooner as her friends already do it at 10 hmm, will have to go through this with dc. Not sure what I will be happy with! Would your dd respect a curfew if applied? Would she let her friends come and knock for her so you can meet some of them? I think if you say no completely she will probably find a way to so maybe try a curfew as a compromise? It’s cold now, so is unlikely to want to stay out long anyway! I know I didn’t!

orangetriangle Mon 19-Feb-18 19:45:18

why would any parent allow or consider the idea is beyond me they are 16 not adults and are still a parents responsibility

brizzledrizzle Mon 19-Feb-18 19:45:58

No, thankfully they don't want to - as my DD pointed out, the ones that do are the ones who are doing foolish things and are the ones with a Reputation. She doesn't want that reputation.

DullAndOld Mon 19-Feb-18 19:47:07

to be honest the kind of teens hanging about in the local park probably are doing little drug deals, smoking weed and so on.

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